Gambler Needs Some Advice and Morale Support (It's Over?)

My original post

I kept it realistic

@neko did you write that passage yourself?

I know, I wasn't saying you didn't. Which is why I didn't respond to your post about it original and quote her original post.

Was just agreeing with your comment, and then adding why I thought her original situation suggested wouldn't work though.

The best thing could happen
The girl says 'YES'

The worst thing could happen
The girl says 'You're a good guy and all but I think we best suited just as a friend....'

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the outcome to the majority of worries everyone has, lol!

Sadly it is tougher to be so rational when you don't want to "ruin" a good relationship with awkward sexual tension. ;-;

Sound like Gambler needs a wingman. Ask someone to suit up with you.


Anyways, good lucky man!

Although it has been a while, I finally have some updates concerning the romantic aspect of my life. Unfortunately, I am not sure if it is a good or bad sign, which is why I am here to seek the advice of my fellow Fakku members once more.

After asking her out a couple of times previously, which she either rejected or postponed, she finally agreed (or relented) to my request. We met up earlier this week for a meal, a short trip to the library and subsequently a singing session (some call it karaoke?).

She was quiet at times, and I was usually the one asking questions. I am not sure if she is just nervous, shy or simply uncomfortable. On the bright side, she did answer my questions, tell me about random issues, and laugh at some of my lame jokes.

On my part, I made a few mistakes too. With my male friends, one can be more easy-going. While eating, I was somewhat criticized for talking, which one may consider to be bad manners. :( In addition, I should have been more pro-active. There were times when she appeared to be interested in some arcade games and plushies found within the UFO catcher machines. Instead of asking whether she would like to play them, I should have gone ahead to attempt at winning some of the prizes.

Coincidentally, she bumped into one of her family members later, who caught one of those plushies for her. :(

Before we parted ways, I asked if I could ask her out again and her reply was "Let us see how things go". Is this a good or bad sign?

Do you suppose I could ask her out again and if so, when would be a good time? Too soon and I might scare her away; whereas if I were to ask after a prolonged period of time, she might think I am no longer interested.

Last but not least, I welcome the feedback and advice of my fellow Fakku members concerning my date as well as for subsequent dates.

Grab her into your arms and just lay a big passionate kiss on her.

"Let us see how things go" isn't a bad thing because it's not a no. I think if you just stay friends don't bring it up and you're there for her she'll start to like you a lot more and more.

I always take neutral statements as an attempt to say no while not hurting your feelings. This isn't always the case though. Learn from what you feel were your mistakes, and remember them for next time. Right now, the important thing is building up your relationship with her, both romantically and on a friend level as well. The more you get to know one another, the more comfortable you'll feel around her when you're out on a date. The best dates I've had were the times where I was just acting naturally, instead of worrying about if I should've done something or not. Confidence is a big key.

Keep trying, and don't give up!

Let us see how things go means she quite enjoy it I guess...

Try to ask her in weekend, or when there's a national holiday.

Gambler congrats on your progress so far. She still sounds unsure about you, but don't give up. When you guys were hanging out were you always by her side or did you give her space? Usually with group dates if you gave her more attention than the others she would recognize your attentions. Maybe invite her to do little stuff with you like eating lunch together. "Hey do you have any plans for lunch because I could give you some company if you want." A little compliment here and there wouldn't hurt.

Also, have you shown that you care about her? Not by words but through actions? Yes, she acknowledges your feelings but you have to show her that you care about her.

That's totally a good sign congrats you're moving up. (achievement unlocked)

Congrats, Mr. Bear on finally getting your date! :3
As everyone else has said, its not necessarily a bad sign that she answered with that. She may still just see you as a friend, though.
So maybe be a bit more...whats the word, assertive?

I would have to go with Classy to be honest, the second part of his post I mean(But you can shoot for the first half if you've got the nuts to do so).

Building up a relation as friends can benefit you more than you would believe, sometimes when they just feel alone or just not feeling well, you will be there for her support(So in other words, you could be her shrink).

If you want to be that guy anyway.

*Sniff* My Gambler is growing up so fast ;__;

Did you try to make a move on her - not like anything sleazy but just a tiny move? Like touch her arm or lead her somewhere with your hand on her back or something? Maybe if you try a little physical contact, she will feel more excitement during the date... she needs to feel at least a little of that so she thinks of you as a romantic partner and not just a friend.

Maybe just add a pinch more of assertiveness and confidence - not fake confidence but natural confidence. You should already feel confident anyways since you have taken her on an official date you stud ;). So maybe just try a little of that next time - act more jokingly, confident, and smile and laugh as if you are having a great time (even if you are nervous =P). You shouldn't have to change TOO much though - you did seem to have a successful date last time.

Be more confident about yourself bro. Be a little bit more physical as gently brush you hand through her hair OH and a great to tell if shes willing to kiss or not. When your sitting down kiss the tips of her hair, if she dont want to she'll pull away her hair, if she wants to, she'll let you continue and smile. Thats all I got for now. Keep me update bro, I really want you to get this girl *hugs you.*

I finally mustered enough courage to confess my feelings to her.

Unfortunately, after reading my letter and poem (yeah, its kinda old-fashioned), I was rejected. I wouldn't say I am not disappointed; in fact, I feel demoralized with no motivation to do anything. Deep down, I really hoped that she would give me an opportunity, but "no electricity" is the reason cited by her, so I suppose it is difficult to proceed further.

Some people say grown men shouldn't cry, but I really feel like doing so right now...

I'm very sorry to hear about the results. Feel free to cry if you want, It's a good cathartic release. I'll cry for you if you can't.

Oh, I'm very sorry to hear that, I haven't talked much to you but you seem to be one of the nicest persons on this forum, feel hugged from the other part of the world *hugs gambler for support*

well, I'm sorry to say but from all I see you just might be too nice and friendly, I would elaborate more on the subject but since I don't really know you or her I'll just stop here but know this..there is ALWAYS a next girl that you gonna like and a good chance that she's gonna like you, so give your self a bit of time to recover (but don't go down in a depression) and then look around that girl might already be somewhere close :)

Thank you for your kind words. I suspect I will crying later, while lying on my bed.



Likewise, thank you for your support too.

I suppose I got to accept the rejection and pick myself back up, so that I can be ready for the next "battle".