How to court her, if your ugly!!!

Can anyone give a very effective advice,

Here is my situation;

I'm a college student and there is this girl I know, that I really like, we've been friends for 3 years already, I know that she's aware that I like her, but I just could not tell her my feelings because I know I have no chance in her (PROBABLY). I don't even look good compare to a beauty and brain of hers, that's probably my best excuse that I'm having difficulties in telling my feelings to her.

Even in chat I cannot tell my feelings to her and to think I haven't got a girlfriend since birth, I'm such a loser..

My footer may explain my attitude
Please give a very effective and a realitics advice...

Been though this before and the best answer is... just ask her for coffee/movie/lunch. if she say no then no hurt because you just asked for something a normal person would ask for friend or date wise.

If you know that she's aware of your sexual affection, then observe her behavior and find out what she really feels about you.
Also, her friends are probably source of help in this kind of situation.

I think she just consider me a friend and nothing beyond that. Were not close with her friends because she's taking up another course right now, were both in college but still we do contact each other but not always..

Thanx, for the effort...

Opps I forgot to enumerate too, I don't have enough money to treat to coffee/movie/lunch...

Damn I'm really terrible

Well, your situation seems to be very precarious. Maybe you are not as ugly as you perceive yourself to be? Try asking a female friend. If you don't have the money to "treat to coffee/movie/lunch", you can try asking her out on some "free" event.

But first and foremost you must find out what she is interested in. If you educate yourself on these topics sufficiently, you will definitely increase your chances. And try to steer every casual conversation into the areas of her interests.

Other than that I can't give you any advices apart from: WORK ON YOURSELF FFS! Self-pity gets you nowhere, and even if you are buttugly: Get in shape! - A man does not necessarily have to be beautiful to be attracted to a woman.

I will need to see a picture of you before I can give advice.

Cause it is entirely dependent on how ugly you are.

This. Compensate what you don't have with your face with your body. Go hit the gym, lift some weights, fix your diet so you get those six pack abs and do some running burn that fat.

Ideas for free dates: chill at the park, the beach during the summer time, study with her in the library? exercise with her (I did this once (Just realized that one was bad LOL, you'd imply she's fat if you asked if she wanted to go exercise LOL).

Of course, it's not really "free" since you'll need to find a way to get there...either public transportation or something.

There's nothing tough about talking, really. If it doesn't feel natural to you, you might be doing something wrong.

And before you decide on whether you are ugly or not, I'd like to see a pic. I bet you look pretty good, but have little self confidence.

But I can't really offer much advice, as I'm at the other side of the spectrum. I know that if I had a male friend for this long and he suddenly came to me and said he loved me in this special way, I wouldn't accept it right away. Maybe if I had feelings for him, but if he has been my friend for so long, I'd rather keep it that way. It's sort of hard to explain, but I believe there are people I'd love to talk hours and hours to and even go on dates with, but I would never want to have any sort of relationship with. Maybe it's a girl thing, maybe not.

I agree, this is a girl thing. Sometimes the friendship is so great and that's what we treasure. So there's always the risk of turning a great friendship awkward.

Besides, if she was interested in you in that way, she probably would have let you know in some girly way. Try to be perceptive when you hang out with her, her body language and the way she talks to you to gague whether she might be able to see you in that way. And I would make sure you actually like her for her, not just because she's a nice girl who pays attention to you : )

But you shouldn't blame your looks on something like this, no matter the outcome. There is always someone who will find you attractive, so even if one person doesn't, it shouldn't affect your confidence. Eventually you will be drawn to someone who is really drawn to you.

Don't let them lie to you.

They want you as a friend because they don't ever want to sleep with you but enjoy the attention.

This is losers talk. Don't listen to her, lol. Everyone on the planet can lover his standards, but that is not the point. As a man you must get what you want. And always try! If her body language does not want to have sex with you, then you must try harder obviously. But always be calculated and thoughtful.

Wait, so you're not at the same college, then? Hmm, that's tough.
Because when most people get to college, they start looking around their own campuses for relationships, truth be told.

Soooo... if you're not her number-one-guy-from-back-home to talk to all the time, she's most likely moved on and come to accept/beleive the idea that you weren't into her.

Self-pity is bad. Very bad. Confidence can make up for not being a "beautiful" man. Like it was said earlier, work on your body. Bing in shape is a great way to confident about yourself. And before you assume you're ugly ask some friends or something- you neve know, you could be pretty handsome guy and not even realize it.

Well I have to say that being in that kind of situation, its gunna give you two what if questions:

If you don't ask her and the two of you just stay friends and she gets a boyfriend, you wonder, what if I had asked her first? that could be me.

If you ask her and your friendship get shaken up, you wonder if you hadn't asked her and would have the same friendship before.

You have to figure which you value more, her friendship or the possible relationship.

As a great man and everyone else has said, Confidence is key~~
if shit happens get back on your feet and try again! Who says have to stop loving her? Keeping going, even if you feel like your heart has shattered, keep going!
Also on a side note, some women will only be friends =A=

Trying is good, sure, but honestly, if a guy just keeps trying and trying after a girl has made it clear that she doesn't want any, it is just annoying and ridiculous, and possibly merits a kick in the balls.

Don't you understand, she hasn't made anything clear.

I did not say he should try after he failed, lol. I said that if she doesn't feel immediately attracted to her, he should try hard to attract her.

Trying hard to attract someone is usually the worse thing you can do.

Most girls I know, do not like guys who do that. Ever.

The part I emphasized in your post implies that she is not interested. If she's not interested, it's not happening, and, like Kalistean says, it's worse to keep trying. The OP has been friends with her for 3yrs? And nothing? This implies being friend-zoned.

But if she TRULY hasn't made anything clear, try. But stop at once if she shows any sign of disinterest.

Edit: Also, you made your statement in response to Circe's post, which further implies that you want him to keep trying with the same person after he gets shot down. NOT A GOOD IDEA, BUB.