How to court her, if your ugly!!!

Actually you are.

You are saying he should try after he failed. You're just not saying he should try after he obviously failed.

Either way. I don't recommend trying to suddenly show your love interest to her, as she might see you differently forever. (might, but I wouldn't distantiate myself too much myself if a guy did that and I turned them down.)

Of course, you could always try, but if she never ever even gave a sign of having an interest in you in a special kind of way I don't see it working now. Think back on when you first met and the couple of first times you talked to eachother. If she wasn't giving hints then you've been friendzoned forever, like Neko said.

first, don't tell your feelings for her on chat ~
Most of the time, when we really like someone, we tend to think that person is the best person on the World. So, when you say you don't match her beauty and mind, it can be that...
Try to find confidence, and I'm going be honest, I don't know how you look like, but after 3 years that you both know each other, and if she is also searching for real love, physical appearance can come after personality.
I don't know her, but a lot of girl love confidence on a guy.

I guess you really have to find a good moment, when you think is right, to let her know~

Sometime, things can hit you when you are the least expected.
Sometime, you have to work for it.

By the way, is nothing bad that you never had a gf! Please don't say you are a loser or anything? ><~ ... People find love when they find it.

Good luck ~ <333
-hug-

Thanks for the advices, I'm sorry for not replying to your post, I forgot I posted my problem here in fakku

I ask her out with me for the first time but, I screw on the date because she has an activity to attend for that day but,

heres our conversion last October 20,2010:

Me: Hey lets go out this friday afternoon ..

Her: (her initials): oh, I'm sorry I have an activity to attend this friday afternoon..

Me: Ohhww, (the ideas going on my brain during that time was "I knew it, she won't go out with me")

Her: But I'm available this coming sunday after 7pm though (that would be this coming October 24,2010)

Me: oh sure no problem with me (I was enlighten)

Her: or you can go to our church and join the mass together with me at 5pm

(We have different religion thats why....)

Me: Thats fine with me, but will they allow a person having a different religion?

Her: yup, it fine with them

Me: OK, lets meet up there at 4:30pm, ^_^




*I recorded our chat in Facebook in my brain....*

Should I confess to her this time? Probably...


I'll tell you more after then...


Thanks again...

If it's your first date after a long while, definitely not. >.>

Try waiting a couple dates later really.

OUCH!!That hurt me...;~;

Confidence, and Perseverance are good qualities. Women love that. But being too persistent can annoy her. Its as Mai, said, if she is looking for true partnership, physical appearance may play a factor, but wont always be the biggest contributor. Personality is a plus. A man who can exude, confidence, honesty, humor, responsibility, ambition and sensitivity(depends on women) is always a plus. Albeit all girls are different. And you said, youve known her for 3 years correct? Looks shouldnt matter in this situation, seeing as how you two are close in a friendship.Plus seeing as how you are finally willing to spend time together, and your first date, get to know her better then and there. Sure you may know how she is in some aspects from being her friend, but usually other traits pop up, during a date or meet-up especially Church, or get-togethers-. I advice, as Haburi-chan stated, to wait for another possible date. Get to know her likes and dislikes, her strengths and weakness, as much as possible. Being a friend, can only go so far.

[color=#9D0A0A]Nonono~~ you got it wrong...
They were met in person. And you were always hanging out with a person, face to face, the girl won't like it when you tell her in chat. She might wonder " why did't you told me that earlier, when we were hanging out"
>////< is different from meeting over the web...
I have to make this clear...

Ok, I should probably wait for the next date or the upcoming dates if there will be..

Hoping for a spark to happen this coming sunday.



Thanks for the advice...

wish me luck guys

Good luck!

Haburi, tnx for wishing me luck...


I thought I'm going to screw again but the date was great, except I didn't expect she had those kind of traits.. I asked her again to go out with me next week, probably this would be the time to tell my feelings..

She's kinda stubborn than usual..

I'm really looking forward for the next date.

I knew it, were not compatible to each other..

I think she was just force to go out with me because she respects our friendship..
I'm not going to ask her again..


I'm such a loser..

Once you get to know some one and they didn't try to make a move during that time, all the sexual tension is gone.



Wow, I'm tempted not to tell you this because you sure sound like a loser, but you should act a little more confident - after all you did step out and ask her on a date of sorts right? That is most than many people - I suspect thats including people on this forum - can say.

Do you mean that you aren't compatible as in you don't like her anymore or that you don't think you have a chance?

I screwed on our last date. We were suppose to go together in there church but she didn't go together with me, instead she just go together with her friends.

Here the scenario:
We were suppose to go to church together (we both agreed to go together) but she said she'll probably be late and I should wait for her inside the church.. I send her an SMS to know where I was seating but she didn't even reply to my SMS, till the boring session was over I never saw her. Then It was time for dismissal, I got out directly on that church.. Then I saw her together with her friends. I know that she saw me but she didn't even say anything or even tell me to wait; As if she didn't saw me at all then I saw her male classmate passed in front of me, I conclude that she was together with him for the rest of the session..

After that I got TOTALLY PISSED.. I don't know why my brain reacted to that.
I'm still watching her and I know that she knew that I'm watching her... Because I was TOTALLY PISSED during that time I try to tell her from a far that "I'm going to go home", probably she read my lips what I was trying to say, because she try to look at me with a glimpse..

Then I left the church, I send an SMS to her before I left the church...

My effort was wasted, If she only knew the reason why I go to her church is because of her. If only she had apologized to me or even gave an excuse why she didn't go together with me probably this wouldn't happen.

We haven't contact each other after that.

Am I the one to blame for this?

No, I don't think that this is your fault. Sometimes people we like are stupid a**holes.

She's a coward for not talking to you after she acted so disrespectful.
I wouldn't try to get in contact with her after that.

But you made great steps for asking her out on dates, now don't give up and get all emo. There will be a nicer girl for you out there^^

Told ya she wasn't interested in you.

Now you're all emo.

You got mad at her because she stood you up at a date-church? I'm sorry religious or not, if some guy invited me to a church-date I would not take him seriously at all.

Church, is somewhere unless the person is deeply religious - a place that most people don't want to go to. Most people celebrate their religion in their own time/home/etc.

Church is not a place to take a person you're romantically interested in.

If you are honestly interested in her and you have a disadvantage then you have to try harder to impress her and suggesting to go to church for a date doesn't cut it. Even if it was her suggestion or she just agreed to it, she most likely did it to be nice. Some people don't realize that being nice/trying to be considerate to spare another person's feelings is worse than being blunt / expressing your true opinion.

If you really want her, you'll have to impress her. Most people who you'd expect to be shallow actually aren't, most people just want to be treated nicely with respect and care.

Good luck next time.
If you really want her, keep trying. If she's worth it, keep trying. If not, there's plenty of other women.

No, don't tell him to keep trying.

You are acting like he has a chance still.

He never had a chance. She's not interested in him, at all.

He's all emo now because he thought he had a chance in the first place.

Did I say he had a chance? No.

I simply told him if he wants to keep going he'll have to try harder.

kthanx.