How to distance yourself emotionally from someone

Been hanging out with this girl a lot and started to get attracted to her. We hang out more and more and I find out she is in a long distance relationship. Shot me down and I didn't even get off the ground. Anyway, I need some helpful tips that will help me emotionally detach myself from liking her. I've been finding it relatively hard considering there isn't a way for me to avoid her because we see each other so often everyday.

I know how you feel. Same thing happened to me once. For me I kinda just talked myself into think "it's just time to move on". Watched a couple of romantic animes (dunno why but seeing a romantic relationship being born between two people whether it be fictional or non-fictional, kinda helps me realize that love itself is not dead and that there are other fish out in the sea). From that point I just move on....can't say I emotionally detached myself. And at the end of it all we remained friends :)

Just move on (easier said then done I'm sure). But don't deny what feelings you have. You'd just be lying to yourself. I've tried to distance myself from somebody before and it just makes things feel awkward not only between the 2 of you but other future prospects.

Hopefully this was a lil insightful.

Do you want her still as a friend or hit the skit bitch?

friends:

Think of her as a ugly chick or a man and it will change your perception of her.

Bye bye girl:

Just be an ass, she take the drift soon.

You should be like "Bitch! I gave you the chance to suck my dick. YOU SHOULD BE HONORED WHORE!" Then smack her around a bit.

And when she tries to say something, fart in her face.

Just make yourself really, really, REALLY busy. Soon you won't have time to think of anything but work, and you will forget about her.

Time and avoidance are the only medicines that I know of to heal such an ailment. Fortunately, since you haven't gotten too close to her yet, it shouldn't take you too much to get over her. Not to say it won't be hard and long, it will. But it doesn't compare to having to separate from a few year relationship.

In the end, it's up to you.

I say the opposite, absences makes the heart grow fonder after all. You should instead spend loads of time with this girl. Eventually the magic will fade and you'll be sick of her.

Yeah man you hanging around her all the time will make you forget about the gigantic pain you feel from not being able to date her. Oh and did I mention that neko is a fucking idiot?

I was only half heartedly suggesting it. It doesn't matter at all what he does because the act of avoiding someone in order to grow less attached to them only acts to futher remind you of them. Go out to sea and fish for crab for weeks, it doesn't matter because every morning you'll remember that you came out here to get away from her. Oh look, I just thought of her again

He already has to see her a lot, and any effort to avoid her is going to only remind him of her even more. Second, if she doesn't become either annoying or he doesn't stop becoming infatuated with her, then at least he has the ablity to be there if she breaks up with her long distance bf - which is going to happen. LDR in college never work out.

He said the attraction only started recently, so it isn't like he is fucking yearning for his soul mate that he is forrbiden from ever being with. She's caught his eye, and I'm just saying that chances are the closer he looks the more he'll realize she isn't a goddess.

TL;DR

You're the fuckin idiot

I'm going to have to agree with neko's method here. The more you hang out with her, the more you'll identify her as a friend, eventually turning that infatuation into pure friendly feelings. You know she's off limits and you're already in a position where you're constantly going to see each other, so it's actually better to go with the flow and try to label her identity as "friend".

If that kind of mentality doesn't kick in then there's always the thought of "she rejected you" whenever you start feeling something for her. Honestly, if I know someone rejected me even once, I kind of don't want to be given false hope of "what ifs" in the future. I rather just move on and explore the world to find a new experience/chance to fall in love. :I

You don't go crabbing to get away from someone. You go crabbing to enjoy the life with out them, not to be attached to them more. You've got other duties to take care of, and your life becomes preoccupied with other problems.

The more you hang out with them and identify them as a friend, there is the chance that you feel you are even more in tune with them, you want to be with them, and you can't fucking have that because "LOL I'M DATING SOMEONE ELSE NOW" or what ever the poor sap's scenario is.

Infatuation isn't rational; so for a lot of people, the more you stay around someone, the more blind you are to the points you like less about the person.

[11:29:21 PM] Kuroneko: IF YOU HANG AROUND THE PERSON YOU LIKE
[11:29:29 PM] Kuroneko: YOU WILL EVENTUALLY STOP LIKING HER AT ALL!

I would say good idea for trying to get away from that person if you want to completely forget about them. However, Unsigned said that there isn't a way to avoid her. The suggestions to become busy are possibly usless because he has to see her anyways. The effort it takes to avoid someone to that degree would change your life significantly enough to the point they would be futile since the very act of avoiding her would remind him of her.

The course I'm suggesting is to become her friend so that he eventually sees her as just another girl and - unlike what you suggested Space - if he makes a conscious effort to find the things that make her normal (like if she picks her nose or has a bitchy side to her) then he can say to himself "Yeah she's cool, but I'm not interested."

If Unsigned isn't able to detach himself this way, then fine - don't do it. However, I thought to offer him an alternative that he could possibly use instead of offering him the exact same advice everyone else offered, that by the way, he can't even use.

Kuroneko can mock the advice by generalizing it into a nonsensical statement, but when applied to this specific situation I think the advice is sound.

And are you guys talking about me in IRC? Thats both weird and flattering...

There's always a way to avoid someone.

Perhaps, but the lengths you have to go in order to avoid someone detemines whether it is worth it or not. If there is a better alternative, why not choose it?

Hmmm emotionaly detach yourself....wellll what always helps me are these 5 words I live by if I want to stay single but still get some every once in a while

Hit

It

Then

Quit

It

there is no better alternative; you're stupid to think so.

Sack up and stop seeing her, you'll only hurt yourself by doing otherwise.

Nah you already did that all kuro did was mock it.

So I am to take it that for everyone else, if you find yourself in this situation then your best plan is to run away? You can't maybe, i dunno... be friends?

haha, obvious woman response.

You've clearly never been in his position.

Yes I have, a few times actually. I'd start to like someone I had a class with or that I would have to hang out with be we had the same after school activites. After a while, I realized that these guys were just a crush or good guys that I rather just be friends with.

I could of avoided them, but then I would miss out on being friends - not to mention look like a stuck up bitch. I'm not suggesting a way to be come completely detached from someone, I'm suggesting that he not destroy his relationship because he doesn't want to fall in love.

If it hurts sooo bad that you have to hide away, I have no advice for you.