impregnating someone

My older sister got pregnant when she was 14 and gave the babies(twin girls) to this eldery couple up for adoption, my parent are always overseas due to their jobs and she had to go to school and the dad went missing(lol). Fast forward 13 years later and she's a Doctor who's has a fiance and pregnant with twins again. She told me that she wish she never gave her children away(i didn't know i had nieces till i was 17), and now she's gathering information on her children form the hospital.I dont know if that's a wise idea but i would like to meet them at the very least.

My point is she regrets giving(abandoned seems to harsh)away and you might too. I cant tell you should man up cause im 19 too and to be honest were still kids. Just dont something you wont regret, but if it were me i wouldn't abandon her but i would finish university 1st.

You fucked her after she said she wasn't comfortable going all the way.

It doesn't matter if she got aroused and gave in, because that is a natural hormonal reaction that happens to everyone, regardless. You should've listened to her, but you didn't because you wanted to stick your penis in something.

The only person who put their penis in an underaged, unwilling girl is you. An unseen force did not fuck her for you. You did. Accept it.

You're a fucking coward if you leave and let the girl go through with the baby by herself. And it's still your fault whether you believe it or not.

meh...I disagree... at 19 that "im just a kid" excuse is out of the window, I know 19 year olds that own their own business, im not saying at 19 you stop learning, or you quit making mistakes, im saying at 19 you should be man enough to admit when you did wrong and accept the mistakes you make without hiding behind any excuses,when you let young men use that "im still a kid" as a out, or a pass for mistakes they arent going to do anything but keep making mistakes until they hit 25 or 30 and already have a track record for being a fuck up.
instead of holding his hand as a kid, teach him as a man.

Your point? He's still 19 and the truth is he still is a kid. That doesnt mean he should abandon her or run away. I think what TY was trying to say that he is still a kid but he should mature 1st or put himself in a position to support his kid. It is impossible for someone to 'man up' over night, it's simply not gonna happen.

@TY your sister is trending deep waters looking for her daughters. She got older and realize she made a big mistake. I hope it turns out well for her though but anywa regardless good post. Ill rep you in 3 hours.

my point is in my eyes at 19, he is not a kid anymore he is making adult mistakes and should be taking adult consequences, its not like he doesnt understand fully the weight of what he did if he doesnt at that age he should, at what age do you finally grow up? 25? 30? when you have ran through and knocked up 4 or 5 different 16 year old girls? if it was your 16 year old daughter he raped, i bet you wouldnt be saying "let him mature first". yall can hold this guys hand if you want to, thats why society turns out losers like this.

I'm sorry, but the average 19-early 20's year old these days are terrible fucking parents. They raise their kids like they treat their friends. You end up with toddlers in saggy pants and Do-Rags screaming 'fuck!' and acting like monstrous little shits. Young adults know jack shit about parenting, because they're too busy 'enjoying their youth and freedoms'.

If the girl decides to keep it, she'll need help from her parents. If she chooses adoption, it'll be an immense emotional sacrifice on her part but she'd be giving an amazing gift to two [hopefully] deserving people.

He's still a kid is a terrible excuse and is always used as an easy way out of everything.


Firstbornnyc never stated that.


The term "man up" is used to say that he needs to grow up and mature instead of trying to run away or escape from his problems like a child would. Yes, he won't grow up overnight, but he needs to change himself and grow up quickly since he fucked up and now has to consider taking care of a family.

I dont have a daughter so i dont know what i would do in that situation. When a person grows up depends on him not the rule set by society because by Jewish laws you are a man at 13. If i were this guy the best course of action was to let the child be adopted, because he is not fit to be a parent.

I agree that judging by this guys attitude he isnt going to win any parenting awards,but thats not what im saying, im saying that at 19 years old you are not to young to be held accountable for the mistakes you make, you shouldnt get a pass just because you are 19, in my book at 19 you are a grown ass man.

So, we went on another date.
I asked her what she feel on [That night]
She said [I'm so scared at first, but the pleasure also tempted me.]
Honestly, I feel so guilty when she mentioned that shes scared.

Congratulations, you have a conscience.

Well YOU SHOULD BE.

Fucking a girl that just finished her gradeschool days is... Do I really need to say this? I know you already know what I'm trying to say, pare.

Not that I in any way agree with the OP's actions, or am siding with him,

but since the girl is currently 16, that makes her a junior in highschool this year.

So 'just finished grade school' or 'freshman' would be incorrect.

Off-topic, but can I say something: Keep that system. If the U.S. had that system, our youth would by the age of 20, college graduates and it would enable them to easily obtain jobs and status in society.

Our education system is longwinded, accomplishes no purpose and it's really declined over the decades.

It must be distressing for you right now. I am not in a position to offer any quality advice. But I hope you would not mind my suggestion. Be in the proper company. I would be with people who are good parents or people who have been in your position and made the best out of the situation if I find myself becoming a father. I understand it is silly for me to say this but I see you looking at the bright side of things with your woman being somewhat forgiving and looking forward to fatherhood or resolving the problem some other way. Wouldn't we agree that it is too much for us to be self-incriminating?

Why don't you, GASP, *talk* to the mother of your child?

Discuss your options together. She may not be thrilled, either, but pregnancy needs to be handled in a VERY timely manner if it is to be terminated (should she choose that option).
Even if she/you want to keep the child, make a plan.

This isn't something to run from, at all.

Its alright now, check my other posts

I was referring about the girl 4 years back.



It already did, pre.



Mind sharing a bit of your current status with you and the girl's parents? Have you agreed upon some terms that will settle the problem?

Either way, I am glad that everything is all right for you.