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Well, congratulations on falling for one of the stupidest traps in the book. If he really needed you to get through rehab, then he can feel free to spend his entire life wasting time and money with being addicted to whatever it is, going into rehab, getting out, then repeating the process. If he's so pathetic that he has to trap a girl into a relationship then he can just go die.

No seriously, stop. It's now plainly obvious the guy's just spouting hollow shit and is taking you down with him.

Face facts: you're tired of him. You say you still "love" him, but you don't. So get out of this before anyone else gets hurt.

I laughed so hard art. u do not understand lol

anyway. i...i dont want the responsibility of this kid's life on my hands. thats a huge reason why i dont break it off.

Here's the thing, though: HE'S going through rehab. Only him. Not you. Doesn't matter how close you really are to him, it's his burden, no one else's. You can try to support and listen to his goings-on, but responsibility never falls on that third party support.

So trust me, if he offs himself just because you break it off with him, it was his own insecurity, and therefore, his responsibility. NOT YOURS. Besides, you just called him a kid. Don't know if it was sarcastic or not, but if not, that's a mighty mean thing to be calling your "boyfriend", a guy who you just stated before that you don't want to waste time with anymore.

i just was on the phone with him. i tried. i failed. we are still together. and here i am with my head hung low, shoulders slouched, and i am just too conflicted to finish what i was going to say.

we can give you all the advice you want, but it sounds like you need a cheering squad rather then advice.

Or a nice smack on the back of the head. Anime style. No restraints.

I certainly would volunteer myself for the task if no one else will.

Seriously though... facepalm.jpg

Staying in a a relationship because you feel guilty is about the most surefire way to destroy both parties involved.

If not now, WHEN? Is the threat of him going back onto drugs going to trap you in a relationship you do not want for the rest of your life?

He's trying to ruin you, and if you stay all you will do is be giving him a crutch and eventually the leaning of someone you do not love will cause you to push him off in a somewhat violent manner.

This will destroy him more than letting him down gently now.

You CANNOT allow other people's potential actions to so completely make you unable to pursue life.

You can get him other forms of help, but staying in the relationship will not be one. It will be a determent and will only hurt both of you more.

Lose the zero get with a hero baby!

You can tell by my picture I have tons of swag.

Okay, who let Steven out of IB?

Why not? OP's already seeming like a lost cause, so may as well let him go nuts, lol.

Maybe it's that small, naive hope that they might come around to a more logical form of reasoning...... Fuck it, who am I kidding. Proceed.

Including or excluding guns and/or other dangerous weapons?

Now that's not a very nice question..... Including kthx.

Also, inb4 she defends him at some level.

Update: I'm staying with him. Despite all of your comments with very valid points, I decided to stay with him. He'll be out of rehab somewhere between April and June. I've waited so long already and don't want to say it was all a waste of time. I want to know what its like to be with him in a normally situated relationship.

I just want to let everyone know, Art called it.

That is all.

I know. Now pay up.

Never. I'll buy you a beer sometime, though, and call it even.

Ew, no. I'll take a Smirnoff Ice, though.

Fair enough.