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Good luck, but if you come back afterwards saying 'Everything's messed up, should I break up with him?', I'm just going to laugh. Obviously only you can really know if it's worth it, but don't be surprised if it's not.

This is now a thread about Art not liking beer since the topic has been resolved.

Also unlocked.

And if you laugh, it is well deserved saying that so many people gave me so much good advice and helped me see certain aspects I didn't even see before. However, we are patching things up and trying our best to make things work. We've been talking out the issues in the relationship and we're spending the holidays together. He has this week off from rehab due to the festive stuff, and I've been seeing him a lot. Hopefully, this will help more than hurt our relationship because we due tend to fight over stupid things a lot -_________-

Art doesn't like beer? Slap that man.

It was my first beer, and it was a fucking Beck's. Gimme a damn break! >:(

There are a few that I like (some strong, some light... varies from taste to taste)
-white rabbit dark ale
-Chang beer
-James boags premium lager
-Cascade stout
-tooheys extra dry
-Corona

I'm still working on trying new ales and beers and shit. Might try meade next

STOP TALKING ABOUT BOOZE! Beer is nice to sip on and liquor is good for partying. DONE. Stop posting about things that do not relate to this topic please.

I don't really know how you can say you love somebody if you've mentioned both of you cheating on each other multiple times. I guess it depends on your definition of love.

Stay in the relationship if you want. If you're happy in the relationship then it's meant to be, but if you're often finding yourself upset or hurt to be in the relationship, then there's no point.

I have to agree with this... Shiki's flippant attitude about infidelity implies that her idea of what she wants in a relationship does not parallel with her boyfriend's. That's a fundamental issue that will affect everything about their relationship, and unless it's addressed and expressed in an honest way... I don't see this relationship going anywhere.

... I'm going to be over blunt about this, and perhaps a bit biased when I say this, and someone's gonna hate me for it, but here it goes;

A good majority of women have this terribly bad habit; If you've been with a man long enough, and he's the sweetest talker ever (and I don't mean in just the sense of saying nice things), always breaking your heart, only to make it better in some way or another, you're suckers for taking them back no matter what. Not to say men are much better, but at least we're capable of admitting it more times then not. Most women however... just make me wanna facepalm. Hard.

In this case, they're both idiots. She's staying for all the wrong reasons and he took back a girl who thinks sexual infidelity is a minor thing that shouldn't matter.

Didn't she say that she's also staying in this relationship because she didn't want him going nuts from breaking up, and wouldn't have to feel guilty about him offing himself?

If you look back a bit, you'll understand when I say, "I told you so..."

Edit: Which is funny, because I got de-repped for that very post, which I should thank whoever did that. I got a laugh at hitting a possible nerve or two.

My attitude about infidelity is that I don't mind my partner have sexual relations with others as long as I am informed about this ahead of time, or immediately after the act. I feel that humans are not meant to be monogamous creatures, and suppressing our nature sexual desires is just unnatural. He does not feel this way, however. He feels that it is wrong to cheat, but if cheated on or if he cheats one's partner should be informed immediately. This is the only major view point in which we simply cannot agree upon. Although he has taken advantage of my view points on infidelity, I believe it was simply for attention in all honesty.

I give. I give... to even "troll" this thread further seems like a waste of time and effort.

All I'm going to say is good luck, both to the posters here after, and to the OP. However, let me re-state something similar to what has already been said;



That is all.

tl;dr : Screw it, I'm done, don't say we didn't warn ya.

I agree 100% with Alex-kun on this. There's not really any sense going to a forum asking for advice if you're just going to defend the guy every wake and turn.

You do realize that literally, all of that, is one giant red flag that you two are deeply and fundamentally incompatible for one another? That little bit at the end says a lot about your feelings about him... You think very, very little of his views and related behavior. At this point... I feel far more sympathy for him than for you, because you really sound like you don't give a shit about his feelings. Sure, you're staying because you're afraid he'd off himself if you don't, but that's not love... that's pity. This... this is just the stupidest relationship thread I've ever read...

Just because I've gotten a lot of feedback on this I thought I'd owe it to you guys to an update.

I broke up with my boyfriend last week on monday. We were both fed up and treating each other like shit, and fighting a lot. So yea. I'm ready for the "i told you so" that was promised previously.

Thanks art <.