why do guys have to ask "how is your day"

yes some however were more helpful and less rude and some were just pointless arguments, I tend to listen to those who are more polite or atleast have a valid point,
however I tend to tell people who just directly insult me to fuck off much like I did with Cormac.
the main posts that were most helpful were yours and lollikittie's
thank you for the info.

I just ask to have a conversation with her cuz I luvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvv herrrrrrr

You just wrote a long bit about how you don't talk about your emotions or initiate conversations about anything of consequence, and then finished with "we keep communication".

....You... you see how ironic that is, right?

Also, your marriage... sounds pretty one-sided. :/

You somehow seem to think that communication means that I outright express my emotions openly. Or that it means that I do things like ask "How was your day?".

That is not all that communication entails you know, so it's not ironic. Though it wouldn't be ironic even if that was true, it would be contradictory. Don't misuse irony.

Why would you think my marriage is one-sided? Just because I am not one for expressing my emotions does not mean I do not love or care for my wife and am willing to do things to keep it working.

You really make a lot of assumptions and wrong conclusions about things.

OP is a retard for actually asking this.

corrected!
since most people don't have the guts to ask questions like this out of fear of oversensitive pricks
get a life why don't you cus I'm protected by "freedom of speech" and I honestly don't give a fuck.

>"fixing" someone else's opinion of you

So edgy. Learn to take criticisms and understand that you really did ask a stupid question.

learn that it is not a stupid question only that it is a highly debatable one that is controversial to many who don't obsess about how someone else is all the time

I don't know how friendly your relationships are but mine currently are very aggressive and based on COLD HARD LOGIC not pathetic emotions that get people killed or start unnecessary unneeded fights

I have a lot of things to do and the few times I have to myself I am either resting trying to fix up my tired or injured body or thinking about what I can do next what other options I have or how to do things better or make myself better or stronger so forgive me if "how was your day" is not on my fucking mind at the moment women in general need to relies that guys that are doing things are not likely to ask them anything unless they see a problem or incident happen

when I have things on my mind its usually like this
"one friend has a controlling relationship, that family member is in the hospital friend 2 is going through another drug problem, friend3 is going through some mental breakdown family issues again, I have to work on my family members injurys(im skilled in massaging and have some medical knowledge that lets me ease or numb out pain and tension that has somehow landed me as "family medic")
I have to study I have to train I have to prepare for work I need to sleep soon(cant fucking fall asleep more then half the time)"
or other times its just scrabled and im just trying to concentrate on trying to figure out what I was thinking about hoping I did not forget anything important I've even had to resort to using caffine in large amounts or forcing an adrenaline rush via self injury SO FORGIVE ME IF MY FIRST FUCKING THOUGHT ISNT "HOW WAS YOUR DAY"

if you want to talk then talk I will listen hell sometimes I need someone to just start talking so I can think of something else besides how fucked up my day usually is everyone has their own coping method to some its to talk to me its to try and forget and listen to others talk so I can stop myself from thinking for a few fucking seconds but don't ever expect me to ask because I am almost literally unable to even THINK about asking

Cry moar. No seriously how immature are you that you need to freak out like that when someone calls you out. If you can't handle criticism then don't make threads. Actually I'm pretty sure most of yours are bad anyway.

I can handle criticism what I hate dealing with is oversensitive self centered bitchs thinking the whole fucking world revolves around them I got shit to do and don't have time to deal with bullshit like that so like I already said
if you wanna talk then talk but don't fucking expect me to put everything on hold to jump at you like some fucking lapdog

No it was correct the first time.



Stop playing the Freedom of Speech card, there is no such thing.



So let me get this straight;

You've told us that you can handle criticism. That's fine. Though you've encountered criticism about your thread (and you personally for asking a stupid question) and we're apparently "oversensitive" and "believe the world revolves around us". Little bit contradictory don't you think?



Where did you get the idea that we were expecting you to drop everything to respond to us? Nobody here said anything of the sort. Little bit angry are we?

for starters freedom of speech exists the only reason is doesn't exist to some is because some people are too afraid to stand up for that right and trust me the only way to can tell me "it doesn't exist" Is by putting a bullet in my fucking head then writing it on my grave otherwise I WILL fuck you up!

2ndly how is my question stupid even moreso how is it NOT stupid that it ALWAYS has to be the guy asking fucking ALWAYS a bit sexist don't you think?
why cant the girl ask to talk?

my deal is I call bullshit when I see it and that right there is straight up one sided and sexist since so many women talk about "equal partnership" then make it fucking equal don't bullshit me and say "only the guy" contradicting almost everything that they are saying its complete bullshit and im calling it like it is
so no its not retarded its only the fact that people who want to desperately beg for "equality" then lash out when their fucking princess benefits get taken away
i'd understand if you considered me "insensitive" but come on you had to see this coming didn't you? if it wasn't me saying this someone else would have after they had enough of it and blew their top.

[size=29]'MURICA HAS FREEDOM OF SPEECH FUCK YEAH!!!![/h]

...except when the topic is about pedophillia, necrophillia, bestiality, incest, revealing information to other countries that could threaten national security, nuclear weapons, starting a war, racism, sexism, corruption, human torture, terrorism, scamming, thieving, drugs, murder, rape, invading human rights, animal cruelty, animal testing, tax evasion, piracy, copyright infringement, gun control and littering. Rubbing your religion in people's faces is also frowned upon and I believe gay marriage is still taboo among some circles.

If true Freedom of Speech existed, society would probably collapse.



Since when was asking something as simple as "How is your day?" sexist? You seem to have this idea in your head that all women are feminazis who demand equality with extra benefits based on this minor issue.

It's not sexist for either side to not ask about each others' day, nor is it necessary as long as you both have good healthy communication. If you must ask a girl how her day is and get it in the neck if you don't, then something is very wrong. You'll have to talk to her about why she's making something so minor a big issue and get her side of the story. If nothing's resolved from talking to her about it then it's a sign that it's probably time to you to walk the other way. Or if you're not with her, stop talking to her.

And finally get out of the misogynistic mindset, not everything women do is a ploy to thwart men and take over the earth. And punish men with death by snuu snuu. As awesome as that would be. Kinda. Maybe?

atleast someone gets what im trying to say im just trying to point out that yes it might be nice if I choose (or even think or remember to ask) but if I don't I shouldn't be blasted out as some scumbag for NOT asking
just like I wouldn't blast out a girl for not asking me

and no I don't have that idea about feminists I actually had a nice discussion with a true feminist and learned a lot so my beef is not with them I just have a problem with the whole idea that I cant just do what I need to do and I have to force myself to go out of my way to ask a question I almost never think about

"and it certainly doesn't stop her just telling you how her day was as well"
that is the whole point if a guy doesn't remember (or even think to ask) there is no reason you cant just start talking to the guy
hell I listened to a stranger on a bus ride who had a fucking mental breakdown
go ahead and ask my why I listened because I honestly don't fucking know I barely knew the guy but I did I know sometimes people just want to vent to someone willing to listen so it doesn't ever matter to me what time people want to talk I will listen I will hear them and if desired I will give advice but I wont be asking them because I'm so caught up with different things I don't think about asking anyone

God you're dumb OP.

I'll ask the question again what makes it "dumb" don't just call me dumb without explaining why

people obviously disagree with me thinking apearently the guy should either ask or don't ask yet the girl should never just talk to their guy on their own
aside from your earlier comment there was nothing from anyone stating that a women initiated a conversation that's all im pointing out

that a guy who does not ask is not because he doesn't care its because hes either shy, preoccupied, tired or just not thinking about it

Stop trying to act like what you said was intelligent by spamming a bunch of words.

not trying to act anything just tired of people calling me dumb for asking this when it is clearly NOT my job nor my responsibility to be someones emotional scapegoat and while yes it might be nice and beneficial for people (not just fucking guys) to ask "how is your day" it is not now nor ever will be a mandatory requirement
this is the type of bullshit I deal with when I try to be nice and do the right thing then forget a few minor fucking details

Ok stop. Your question has been answered so lets leave it like that.

You might want to step outside sometimes and learn about the real world. Right now, you're being highly retarded about it.