why do guys have to ask "how is your day"
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SolidShark wrote...
Cormac wrote...
It's a conversation starter you inbred fuck. Anyone can ask it regardless of sex. IE: both women and men. lrn2socialize.It's not inbred, it's purebreed you ignorant fuck.
Also, deathgod, you had pretty much the same replies from enough users. I hope it helped.
yes some however were more helpful and less rude and some were just pointless arguments, I tend to listen to those who are more polite or atleast have a valid point,
however I tend to tell people who just directly insult me to fuck off much like I did with Cormac.
the main posts that were most helpful were yours and lollikittie's
thank you for the info.
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Takerial wrote...
My wife learned a long time ago that I will never initiate conversations like that without either having something interesting to say in return, or her asking directly for me to say something to her. She will just start talking about her day if she wishes to talk about her day and if I feel like I want to say something I will say it. If she wants me to spend time with her she will typically demand it (with me giving in about 50% of the time.)I think it just has to deal with the personalities involved in the relationship. I'm typically a non-expressive person and hide my emotions for the most part and she just slowly got use to me behaving like that over time. It did take some time for her to do so though (years) and even to this day she can get frustrated about it.
But as long as we keep communication between each other, we solve any potential problems before they might become larger and enjoy series of compromises between what we want to do.
You just wrote a long bit about how you don't talk about your emotions or initiate conversations about anything of consequence, and then finished with "we keep communication".
....You... you see how ironic that is, right?
Also, your marriage... sounds pretty one-sided. :/
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Takerial
Lovable Teddy Bear
Lollikittie wrote...
Takerial wrote...
My wife learned a long time ago that I will never initiate conversations like that without either having something interesting to say in return, or her asking directly for me to say something to her. She will just start talking about her day if she wishes to talk about her day and if I feel like I want to say something I will say it. If she wants me to spend time with her she will typically demand it (with me giving in about 50% of the time.)I think it just has to deal with the personalities involved in the relationship. I'm typically a non-expressive person and hide my emotions for the most part and she just slowly got use to me behaving like that over time. It did take some time for her to do so though (years) and even to this day she can get frustrated about it.
But as long as we keep communication between each other, we solve any potential problems before they might become larger and enjoy series of compromises between what we want to do.
You just wrote a long bit about how you don't talk about your emotions or initiate conversations about anything of consequence, and then finished with "we keep communication".
....You... you see how ironic that is, right?
Also, your marriage... sounds pretty one-sided. :/
You somehow seem to think that communication means that I outright express my emotions openly. Or that it means that I do things like ask "How was your day?".
That is not all that communication entails you know, so it's not ironic. Though it wouldn't be ironic even if that was true, it would be contradictory. Don't misuse irony.
Why would you think my marriage is one-sided? Just because I am not one for expressing my emotions does not mean I do not love or care for my wife and am willing to do things to keep it working.
You really make a lot of assumptions and wrong conclusions about things.
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Mrs. Merryweather wrote...
OP is a boss for actually asking this.corrected!
since most people don't have the guts to ask questions like this out of fear of oversensitive pricks
get a life why don't you cus I'm protected by "freedom of speech" and I honestly don't give a fuck.
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artcellrox
The Grey Knight :y
deathgod72 wrote...
Mrs. Merryweather wrote...
OP is a boss for actually asking this.corrected!
>"fixing" someone else's opinion of you
So edgy. Learn to take criticisms and understand that you really did ask a stupid question.
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artcellrox wrote...
deathgod72 wrote...
Mrs. Merryweather wrote...
OP is a boss for actually asking this.corrected!
>"fixing" someone else's opinion of you
So edgy. Learn to take criticisms and understand that you really did ask a stupid question.
learn that it is not a stupid question only that it is a highly debatable one that is controversial to many who don't obsess about how someone else is all the time
I don't know how friendly your relationships are but mine currently are very aggressive and based on COLD HARD LOGIC not pathetic emotions that get people killed or start unnecessary unneeded fights
I have a lot of things to do and the few times I have to myself I am either resting trying to fix up my tired or injured body or thinking about what I can do next what other options I have or how to do things better or make myself better or stronger so forgive me if "how was your day" is not on my fucking mind at the moment women in general need to relies that guys that are doing things are not likely to ask them anything unless they see a problem or incident happen
when I have things on my mind its usually like this
"one friend has a controlling relationship, that family member is in the hospital friend 2 is going through another drug problem, friend3 is going through some mental breakdown family issues again, I have to work on my family members injurys(im skilled in massaging and have some medical knowledge that lets me ease or numb out pain and tension that has somehow landed me as "family medic")
I have to study I have to train I have to prepare for work I need to sleep soon(cant fucking fall asleep more then half the time)"
or other times its just scrabled and im just trying to concentrate on trying to figure out what I was thinking about hoping I did not forget anything important I've even had to resort to using caffine in large amounts or forcing an adrenaline rush via self injury SO FORGIVE ME IF MY FIRST FUCKING THOUGHT ISNT "HOW WAS YOUR DAY"
if you want to talk then talk I will listen hell sometimes I need someone to just start talking so I can think of something else besides how fucked up my day usually is everyone has their own coping method to some its to talk to me its to try and forget and listen to others talk so I can stop myself from thinking for a few fucking seconds but don't ever expect me to ask because I am almost literally unable to even THINK about asking
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623
FAKKU QA
Spoiler:
Cry moar. No seriously how immature are you that you need to freak out like that when someone calls you out. If you can't handle criticism then don't make threads. Actually I'm pretty sure most of yours are bad anyway.
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623 wrote...
Spoiler:
Cry moar. No seriously how immature are you that you need to freak out like that when someone calls you out. If you can't handle criticism then don't make threads. Actually I'm pretty sure most of yours are bad anyway.
I can handle criticism what I hate dealing with is oversensitive self centered bitchs thinking the whole fucking world revolves around them I got shit to do and don't have time to deal with bullshit like that so like I already said
if you wanna talk then talk but don't fucking expect me to put everything on hold to jump at you like some fucking lapdog
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Mrs. Merryweather wrote...
OP is a retard for actually asking this.No it was correct the first time.
get a life why don't you cus I'm protected by "freedom of speech" and I honestly don't give a fuck.
Stop playing the Freedom of Speech card, there is no such thing.
deathgod72 wrote...
I can handle criticism what I hate dealing with is oversensitive self centered bitchs thinking the whole fucking world revolves around them I got shit to do and don't have time to deal with bullshit like that so like I already said So let me get this straight;
You've told us that you can handle criticism. That's fine. Though you've encountered criticism about your thread (and you personally for asking a stupid question) and we're apparently "oversensitive" and "believe the world revolves around us". Little bit contradictory don't you think?
if you wanna talk then talk but don't fucking expect me to put everything on hold to jump at you like some fucking lapdog
Where did you get the idea that we were expecting you to drop everything to respond to us? Nobody here said anything of the sort. Little bit angry are we?
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Mrs. Merryweather wrote...
Mrs. Merryweather wrote...
OP is a retard for actually asking this.No it was correct the first time.
get a life why don't you cus I'm protected by "freedom of speech" and I honestly don't give a fuck.
Stop playing the Freedom of Speech card, there is no such thing.
deathgod72 wrote...
I can handle criticism what I hate dealing with is oversensitive self centered bitchs thinking the whole fucking world revolves around them I got shit to do and don't have time to deal with bullshit like that so like I already said So let me get this straight;
You've told us that you can handle criticism. That's fine. Though you've encountered criticism about your thread (and you personally for asking a stupid question) and we're apparently "oversensitive" and "believe the world revolves around us". Little bit contradictory don't you think?
if you wanna talk then talk but don't fucking expect me to put everything on hold to jump at you like some fucking lapdog
Where did you get the idea that we were expecting you to drop everything to respond to us? Nobody here said anything of the sort. Little bit angry are we?
for starters freedom of speech exists the only reason is doesn't exist to some is because some people are too afraid to stand up for that right and trust me the only way to can tell me "it doesn't exist" Is by putting a bullet in my fucking head then writing it on my grave otherwise I WILL fuck you up!
2ndly how is my question stupid even moreso how is it NOT stupid that it ALWAYS has to be the guy asking fucking ALWAYS a bit sexist don't you think?
why cant the girl ask to talk?
my deal is I call bullshit when I see it and that right there is straight up one sided and sexist since so many women talk about "equal partnership" then make it fucking equal don't bullshit me and say "only the guy" contradicting almost everything that they are saying its complete bullshit and im calling it like it is
so no its not retarded its only the fact that people who want to desperately beg for "equality" then lash out when their fucking princess benefits get taken away
i'd understand if you considered me "insensitive" but come on you had to see this coming didn't you? if it wasn't me saying this someone else would have after they had enough of it and blew their top.
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Gravity cat
the adequately amused
deathgod72 wrote...
for starters freedom of speech exists the only reason is doesn't exist to some is because some people are too afraid to stand up for that right and trust me the only way to can tell me "it doesn't exist" Is by putting a bullet in my fucking head then writing it on my grave otherwise I WILL fuck you up![size=29]'MURICA HAS FREEDOM OF SPEECH FUCK YEAH!!!![/h]
...except when the topic is about pedophillia, necrophillia, bestiality, incest, revealing information to other countries that could threaten national security, nuclear weapons, starting a war, racism, sexism, corruption, human torture, terrorism, scamming, thieving, drugs, murder, rape, invading human rights, animal cruelty, animal testing, tax evasion, piracy, copyright infringement, gun control and littering. Rubbing your religion in people's faces is also frowned upon and I believe gay marriage is still taboo among some circles.
If true Freedom of Speech existed, society would probably collapse.
2ndly how is my question stupid even moreso how is it NOT stupid that it ALWAYS has to be the guy asking fucking ALWAYS a bit sexist don't you think?
why cant the girl ask to talk?
my deal is I call bullshit when I see it and that right there is straight up one sided and sexist since so many women talk about "equal partnership" then make it fucking equal don't bullshit me and say "only the guy" contradicting almost everything that they are saying its complete bullshit and im calling it like it is
so no its not retarded its only the fact that people who want to desperately beg for "equality" then lash out when their fucking princess benefits get taken away
i'd understand if you considered me "insensitive" but come on you had to see this coming didn't you? if it wasn't me saying this someone else would have after they had enough of it and blew their top.
why cant the girl ask to talk?
my deal is I call bullshit when I see it and that right there is straight up one sided and sexist since so many women talk about "equal partnership" then make it fucking equal don't bullshit me and say "only the guy" contradicting almost everything that they are saying its complete bullshit and im calling it like it is
so no its not retarded its only the fact that people who want to desperately beg for "equality" then lash out when their fucking princess benefits get taken away
i'd understand if you considered me "insensitive" but come on you had to see this coming didn't you? if it wasn't me saying this someone else would have after they had enough of it and blew their top.
Since when was asking something as simple as "How is your day?" sexist? You seem to have this idea in your head that all women are feminazis who demand equality with extra benefits based on this minor issue.
It's not sexist for either side to not ask about each others' day, nor is it necessary as long as you both have good healthy communication. If you must ask a girl how her day is and get it in the neck if you don't, then something is very wrong. You'll have to talk to her about why she's making something so minor a big issue and get her side of the story. If nothing's resolved from talking to her about it then it's a sign that it's probably time to you to walk the other way. Or if you're not with her, stop talking to her.
And finally get out of the misogynistic mindset, not everything women do is a ploy to thwart men and take over the earth. And punish men with death by snuu snuu. As awesome as that would be. Kinda. Maybe?
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Gravity cat wrote...
deathgod72 wrote...
for starters freedom of speech exists the only reason is doesn't exist to some is because some people are too afraid to stand up for that right and trust me the only way to can tell me "it doesn't exist" Is by putting a bullet in my fucking head then writing it on my grave otherwise I WILL fuck you up![size=29]'MURICA HAS FREEDOM OF SPEECH FUCK YEAH!!!![/h]
...except when the topic is about pedophillia, necrophillia, bestiality, incest, revealing information to other countries that could threaten national security, nuclear weapons, starting a war, racism, sexism, corruption, human torture, terrorism, scamming, thieving, drugs, murder, rape, invading human rights, animal cruelty, animal testing, tax evasion, piracy, copyright infringement, gun control and littering. Rubbing your religion in people's faces is also frowned upon and I believe gay marriage is still taboo among some circles.
If true Freedom of Speech existed, society would collapse.
2ndly how is my question stupid even moreso how is it NOT stupid that it ALWAYS has to be the guy asking fucking ALWAYS a bit sexist don't you think?
why cant the girl ask to talk?
my deal is I call bullshit when I see it and that right there is straight up one sided and sexist since so many women talk about "equal partnership" then make it fucking equal don't bullshit me and say "only the guy" contradicting almost everything that they are saying its complete bullshit and im calling it like it is
so no its not retarded its only the fact that people who want to desperately beg for "equality" then lash out when their fucking princess benefits get taken away
i'd understand if you considered me "insensitive" but come on you had to see this coming didn't you? if it wasn't me saying this someone else would have after they had enough of it and blew their top.
why cant the girl ask to talk?
my deal is I call bullshit when I see it and that right there is straight up one sided and sexist since so many women talk about "equal partnership" then make it fucking equal don't bullshit me and say "only the guy" contradicting almost everything that they are saying its complete bullshit and im calling it like it is
so no its not retarded its only the fact that people who want to desperately beg for "equality" then lash out when their fucking princess benefits get taken away
i'd understand if you considered me "insensitive" but come on you had to see this coming didn't you? if it wasn't me saying this someone else would have after they had enough of it and blew their top.
You're just spouting bullshit now. And ignored every post telling you that it isn't required for a guy to ask his girlfriend how her day is. It's one thing to ask for people's opinions but it's another thing to completely ignore them all, so I'll tell you again:
- It's not sexist to not ask a girl how her day is.
- It's not sexist for her not to ask you how your day was.
- It's not a bad thing to just tell her how your day was
- and it certainly doesn't stop her just telling you how her day was as well.
You seem to have this idea that all women are feminazis who demand equality with extra benefits. All because you don't want to have to ask how her day is? If you must ask her how her day is and get it in the neck if you don't, then someone who makes a tiny issue like that into a major one is probably either very insecure about themselves or are a control freak and you should stop talking to them.
atleast someone gets what im trying to say im just trying to point out that yes it might be nice if I choose (or even think or remember to ask) but if I don't I shouldn't be blasted out as some scumbag for NOT asking
just like I wouldn't blast out a girl for not asking me
and no I don't have that idea about feminists I actually had a nice discussion with a true feminist and learned a lot so my beef is not with them I just have a problem with the whole idea that I cant just do what I need to do and I have to force myself to go out of my way to ask a question I almost never think about
"and it certainly doesn't stop her just telling you how her day was as well"
that is the whole point if a guy doesn't remember (or even think to ask) there is no reason you cant just start talking to the guy
hell I listened to a stranger on a bus ride who had a fucking mental breakdown
go ahead and ask my why I listened because I honestly don't fucking know I barely knew the guy but I did I know sometimes people just want to vent to someone willing to listen so it doesn't ever matter to me what time people want to talk I will listen I will hear them and if desired I will give advice but I wont be asking them because I'm so caught up with different things I don't think about asking anyone
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Takerial wrote...
God you're dumb OP.I'll ask the question again what makes it "dumb" don't just call me dumb without explaining why
people obviously disagree with me thinking apearently the guy should either ask or don't ask yet the girl should never just talk to their guy on their own
aside from your earlier comment there was nothing from anyone stating that a women initiated a conversation that's all im pointing out
that a guy who does not ask is not because he doesn't care its because hes either shy, preoccupied, tired or just not thinking about it
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Takerial
Lovable Teddy Bear
deathgod72 wrote...
Takerial wrote...
God you're dumb OP.I'll ask the question again what makes it "dumb" don't just call me dumb without explaining why
people obviously disagree with me thinking apearently the guy should either ask or don't ask yet the girl should never just talk to their guy on their own
aside from your earlier comment there was nothing from anyone stating that a women initiated a conversation that's all im pointing out
that a guy who does not ask is not because he doesn't care its because hes either shy, preoccupied, tired or just not thinking about it
Stop trying to act like what you said was intelligent by spamming a bunch of words.
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Takerial wrote...
deathgod72 wrote...
Takerial wrote...
God you're dumb OP.I'll ask the question again what makes it "dumb" don't just call me dumb without explaining why
people obviously disagree with me thinking apearently the guy should either ask or don't ask yet the girl should never just talk to their guy on their own
aside from your earlier comment there was nothing from anyone stating that a women initiated a conversation that's all im pointing out
that a guy who does not ask is not because he doesn't care its because hes either shy, preoccupied, tired or just not thinking about it
Stop trying to act like what you said was intelligent by spamming a bunch of words.
not trying to act anything just tired of people calling me dumb for asking this when it is clearly NOT my job nor my responsibility to be someones emotional scapegoat and while yes it might be nice and beneficial for people (not just fucking guys) to ask "how is your day" it is not now nor ever will be a mandatory requirement
this is the type of bullshit I deal with when I try to be nice and do the right thing then forget a few minor fucking details
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Sgt.broski
Where's the futa Jacob
Ok stop. Your question has been answered so lets leave it like that.
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Takerial
Lovable Teddy Bear
deathgod72 wrote...
Takerial wrote...
deathgod72 wrote...
Takerial wrote...
God you're dumb OP.I'll ask the question again what makes it "dumb" don't just call me dumb without explaining why
people obviously disagree with me thinking apearently the guy should either ask or don't ask yet the girl should never just talk to their guy on their own
aside from your earlier comment there was nothing from anyone stating that a women initiated a conversation that's all im pointing out
that a guy who does not ask is not because he doesn't care its because hes either shy, preoccupied, tired or just not thinking about it
Stop trying to act like what you said was intelligent by spamming a bunch of words.
not trying to act anything just tired of people calling me dumb for asking this when it is clearly NOT my job nor my responsibility to be someones emotional scapegoat and while yes it might be nice and beneficial for people (not just fucking guys) to ask "how is your day" it is not now nor ever will be a mandatory requirement
this is the type of bullshit I deal with when I try to be nice and do the right thing then forget a few minor fucking details
You might want to step outside sometimes and learn about the real world. Right now, you're being highly retarded about it.