What if you were 17 and got a girl pregnant who was 16

I would not know what to do. I would start my life again from scratch.

Yes it would ruin they're lives. But you have to keep going and see this through to the end.

Decide whether to keep the baby.

But I'm telling you, being 17 and a father is like hell and with the economy the way it is good luck finding a job.

If you're not, then make sure the parents are good people.

You press the restart button and go to the previous save point.

Jokes aside, do what Jinx did.

Here's my take, you have two options

1: Put the child up for adoption
The parents are FAR TOO YOUNG, I'm 21 and I can't even imagine being able to support a child and her mother, and I'm sure the mother isn't fully prepared for the endeavor either, they have their entire lives ahead of them, they need to give themselves a chance to make something of themselves. Then this question comes into mind....do the parents, who choose to go through with the birth, TRULY CARE ABOUT THAT NEW LIFE'S WELL BEING? Some have made arguments saying that it's cruel to part a mother from her child, losing something so precious to her. But in reality, a true caring parent would weigh reality against their own desires. I feel the child would be far better off with a couple who is financially and intelligently stable enough to come to the conclusion that they wish to adopt a child and care for it into it's maturity. Just make damn sure that the parents that wish to adopt are not total trash or anything.

2: Abortion
Pretty sketchy territory here, I'm not very religious, and I don't have any hardcore beliefs, I only feel that people should be fair and kind to those around them (unless their idiots). However, if a couple chooses to abort....DO NOT TAKE YOUR SWEET FUCKING TIME WITH IT!!! At least do the little guy a favor and abort before it can truly feel pain or fully form and such. This crap where a parent suddenly says "oh no, my life is in danger, I should abort" at about 7 MONTHS!!! Blow that smoke right back up your ass, by that time, you've made a commitment, you owe it to yourself to take that risk to bring that child into this world.

(...Seems I got a little heated on that last one.)

Time changes people my friends, the parents may not necessarily love each other as much as they thought after a period of time. Soon they begin to dislike one another, then they argue, and then they begin to fight...and then, the child will eventually get the brunt of verbal and or physical abuse from parents who are annoyed, on edge, and looking for someone to place blame.

Thus ends my take on this sort of situation.

And with that, I'm off to the user uploads section (unzips pants and clicks on link).

I shall take responsibility and sustain them with all I can. It's my fault so I should take responsibility for it but it would have a great impact on my life. Psychologically that is.

Heck, my two buddies in college got together and oooooops she got pregnant with him.
Did everything, condoms, pill, morning after pill: she's in the 1% that it doesn't work on.

Needless to say, has been a huge problem between them... she's graduated (two year school), and he was going to stay on. They were going to put the kid for adoption.
Now it's unclear... they're getting married and might keep it.
Crazy things can happen, even when you're old enough.

Yes it would. There is still a chance that this could happen to me but I highly doubt it.

shyt, my dumb cousin got pregnant at age 17 and her bf was at the same age. Turned out in the end the baby was pushed to my cousin's mom to take care most of the time. Now their living together (excluding the baby) working in some place selling pirated handphones, accesories etc, the baby is living off in my aunt's expenses.

Their not married yet, and their living together, and they didnt want to take care of the baby because it was too troublesome and disrupts their youngsters lives.

I thought that was a really stupid way in terms of precaution, responsibility and settlement. In short, the guy needs to get their head knocked to senses and start realizing their responsibility, and not rely on their mummies and daddies forever for safety. Then again, saying that was easy, most teens are rather still reluctant to accept the pressure of the real world anyway, even when they reach age of consent.

Probably yes if your living in a city but no if you in the mountains since you dont need to have to finish schooling to get a job & money ^^.

If we love each other... there's no way it would ruin my life. Sure, difficult, but well, giving my all for the one I love doesn't seem half bad.

Can't really answer that question. Yes and no, really.

If it's someone I truly love, I'm sure we can work things out and even start enjoying our little family. If it's someone I was only planning to have a one-nightstand with then... oh fuck.

Funny...

This thread's title totally applies to me, except we didnt stay together, though deep down I do miss her and want to find out what happened to her...

Anyone that knows me well should know what Im talking about, and I dont feel like going back digging up old threads for reference...

Long story short, I was 17, she was 16, she mighta gotten pregnant, but I moved away and found out months later that she might have been pregnant, then she went missing and I havent heard from her since...

Its been 3 years since then...

Kinda sucks to think about that I might have a kid somewhere and I dont even know him/her...

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Ive even pondered about hiring a private eye to look her up...

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But that would be kind of creepy... but still...

Wow man, sorry to hear that. That's no easy situation.

You don't have to say "I am the OP" we can clearly see that.

No my life wouldn't have been ruined. It's called repeated body blows to that bitches stomach. Or a vacuum cleaner up the puss and suck that thing out.

Also sorry to hear that. If you have the money, I say go for it and hire a private investigator. Life should be lived with as few regrets as possible.

I've recently been affected by a new life in my family. The mother, my sister, is older than me by a few years, and I'm 21. Let me just say this: child rearing is so freakin underrated. Its VERY difficult, I can't stress this enough. This is especially so if the parents have been laid off in this economy (which is what's happened in my life).

What I'm trying to say, in so few words, is that if two people want a baby or have unprotected sex, they should be ready financially to deal with the consequences. Adults struggle with this all the time. Two minors will have even more of a struggle with this. They will have to make some huge adjustments and sacrifices. Unless they come from a rich family, they would need to drop out, get jobs, and start saving. Life won't be a game anymore, if it ever was.

As for whether their lives would be ruined, I voted yes BUT

I'm going to come clean and say this: Get an abortion or leave the kid for adoption. One thing I hate about the whole "keep the baby" scenario is that keeping the baby will most likely make everyone in the family suffer for only a slim chance of this so-called "happiness". You need money to keep the family from poverty, unless you live away from the city and can provide yourself, being poor is equivalent to a life of hell.

How do people pull abortions using wire cloth hangers?