Oh. Oh, Leonard. You poor boy. You've never had a woman treat you? That's... got to be a blow to the ego. I'm so sorry your experience is so limited. To say nothing of the fact that I've had to institute a 'whoever's cash I saw out first is paying' policy to keep couples (and friends, to be fair) from arguing over who gets to treat the other... you've had such bad luck, my friend.


Also, note not all States have harsh alimony. Georgia's hard to get alimony in. Texas tends to say their community property staute take care of that.


Oh, and while it is Canada, I know two men who are primary care givers for their kids and the mother pays support.


Funny, you know. One told me he almost listened to someone who expressed an opinion similar to yours, didn't contest custody, and just let her take them-- but decided to try, and damn if the court didn't look at his ex and say, nope, he's getting them.


Course, I'm not trying to change your mind, man. If that works for you.