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The mother with the "spanking your child makes them less intelligent". Is bunk, my father was beaten if he so much as made a smart ass comment or disobeyed his mother or father. I'm not talking a simply spanking, we're talking closed fists or a "switch" from a nearby tree. One story my mother enlightened me to was my grandfather told my father to run to their well and get a bucket of water (he grew up during the thirties in Missouri). My father said "get it yourself" to which my grandfather followed him to the well while whipping him with a thin tree branch every step of the way. If my father dropped the bucket he'd have to go back and fill it up again, all the while getting his lashes.

Edit: After Gibbous's post I can see where my fathers anger and control issues come from. Though I'm still skeptical that it makes your child "dumber". Gibs post states that it simply leads to more behavioral problems later.

If that woman was correct then my father shouldn't be as nearly intelligent as he is. The man is a genius when it comes to machines and mathematics. If he had gone to college he could have easily become an architect or an engineer of some variety.

The trick is to make the child understand that they are being punished for doing something they shouldn't. You just have to make sure they understand that doing something they shouldn't results in a punishment whether it's spanking, being "grounded", paying a fine,etc. People who are worried that "it'll teach their children to solve problems with violence" can relax. Teach your child that violence doesn't solve problems, and that it only creates new ones.



I've heard a couple reasons why this happens but, the most prevalent two I hear are; parents don't think they need to raise their children because schools do it for them or they become indifferent because their hands are tied. They can't spank their children, can't punish them in any meaningful way because child services will be called. They simply shut down because they don't have anything else they can do.



This is an example of when corporal punishment is required. When I'd act out in such a way my father would take me into the bath room and spank me. After the first time all my dad had to do was threaten it again. Needless to say I quickly learned that punishment is something I should avoid and I avoided punishment by behaving.



I never liked parents who did this to their children. It always seemed parents who needed their ego's stroked made children say such things. Probably because the father was some middle management failure in life so he gets his kicks by making children say "sir".



I think this is a wonderful idea. Teach your child how to handle money responsibly and you will help them avoid issues later on. It's an excellent way to teach a kid how to handle a budget. Even better to make the child do chores for an allowance instead of simply giving it to them. That was a mistake my parents made with me but, luckily I learned on my own when I got a job. Anyways, combining these two will associate working with reward.



Medicating children is an easy way for them to be controlled. Public schools love to force parents to medicate their children if they won't sit down, face forward and shut the fuck up.

Medicating your child has a personal effect on me. I was diagnosed with A.D.H.D (attention deficit hyperactive disorder) when I was a wee lad. I was an ordinary boy, who simply had energy to burn and found it hard to sit still. So one of my teachers simply allowed me to fidget with a pencil in my hand and I never bothered anybody. As soon as we moved to Georgia the school staff refused to make the simple concession of allowing me to fidget with my pencil. Long story short, my parents were given an ultimatum, "Put your child on Ridlin or he will not be allowed to attend a public school in this state". Government came in and I was forced to take mind altering medication. I went from a child who loved sports and being outside on his bike to a mindless zombie.

Studies have shown that boys aren't "hyper" they simply want to be active and our current system of schooling....who am I kidding, we simply warehouse our kids. The point of the matter is; let the boys burn off the energy in P.E. or recess. Let kids be kids.

If children can't get past red ink then how are they supposed to last in the global work force? If we continue to coddle our children then when it comes for them to handle the stress of independent living they will simply crumple like an empty soda can. I see the "everybody wins" mentality as not teaching children to strive to improve themselves. Why be better than someone else when you'll just get the same results? Later in life, these kids will grow into complacent adults. We should encourage children work for something and to put in the ole 110% because this will lead them to challenge and better themselves rather than programming the children to believe they are entitled to something.

Look everybody it's a wild ramsus. Don't post any opposing ideas otherwise you'll scare it away. J/k Rami