Rito Ayasaki Posts

I agree on this. Expert advice is expert advice, but even the experts say that parents should act depending on the situation and circumstances.

To be honest, bullying is something we will never be completely protected of through our whole life. It's just that the label is different, it's called mobbing on the workplace or simply rude/violent/unpleasant behavior.

I had to deal with a bully at my workplace for over a year. His actions were always at the margin on sexual harassment, but never quite that obvious and at that time Serbia didn't have any laws regarding mobbing. I tried ignoring him - it just got worse. I tried answering back - it got worse. I tried reasoning - it just got worse. At the end I snapped and hissed (not screamed) him down that I will go not to our manager, but to the head of the department directly and not even tell him about his behavior but also how many times he skips work and about all the mistakes he ever made and I noticed.

He didn't talk to me for a month, but eventually calmed down and kept his distance.

Threats worked in that case, but that is not guaranteed to work every time. I saw colleagues, who did the same, and just got a war over who finds the other guys mistake first and gets to rant it out to the head of department to get the other one fired. Not a nice working environment, I can tell you.

My daughter is 6 years old now. She is going to preschool and will start elementary school in September this year (2012). She is training Aikido now for over a year and has already the orange belt.
I chose this particular martial art, because ultimately you don't even need to throw someone over the shoulder or break arms ... you just grab them nicely by the hand and make them kneel and squeal in pain, without any lasting damage or harm.

That is what I can give her on her way for being a female in a rough society, because I don't want her to get expelled from school or later on get into prison because she got into a fight.

Psychologically I can only strengthen her ego. The ability to shake off harmful and mean comments of other people. I can teach her to know who she is and to be rock solid about that. I can teach her how to say NO and stick to it. I can teach her to think fast and flexible and to know how to improvise. I can give her a wide knowledge base, so she can draw from it to find the BEST way in every situation no matter how hard it is.

And I am making sure with every minute of my life with her that she knows that she can always count on me and my support.

That all will hopefully make her a kid and later a person who can deal with such things, even if that means that she asks me or someone else for help.

Edit: BTW let's not forget that bullies may be children who get abused themselves and are as much victims as the kids they bully.

I have a kid and I'd stick to the recommendations of people who know their stuff:


Great article on this topic can be also found on kidshealth.org (just click on the link, it leads you directly to the article).



This one can backfire badly, as you might turn your kid into a person, who is trying to be popular at any cost - even if it means to do very harmful and dangerous things (i.e. taking drugs).

A tiny bit on jealousy:


The thing is that we keep forgetting that love has various forms. The standard homo sapiens in the modern western culture loves several different people at the same time through his entire life.

The types of love are just different, but they are love nonetheless. The love towards a friend, a sibling, father, mother, child ...

But for some reason we keep on insisting that we can love only one person romantically at the same time - without even trying to rethink that concept.

According to some statistical studies, the opposite is true: Religious people are happier than atheists.

Here are two older news articles on that topic:
Believers are happier than atheists
Religious believers happier than atheists and agnostics: study

Statistics on CP prosecutions:


Profile of CP users from the Center for Problem-oriented Policing:


The really sad thing about this whole child abuse PARANOIA is that it pushes real criminals further into the underground, because they are far more careful with what they are doing.

A judges job is not to believe someone or not, but to come to a critical conclusion based on evidence. This is just sad ... really sad.

If something is proven, then you don't have to believe in it anymore. Because then you know it. Because most people don't know if a God exists or not, they have to either believe it or not. That is the concept of faith.

(Edit: "Most people" because I have no proof that some people maybe do KNOW that God exists, or doesn't.)

But let's stretch the concept a tiny bit based on the assumption that we have to believe things we don't really know about:
How many of you really know anything about Physics, Quantum Physics, Biology, Evolution, Medicine, etc. ...
Meaning, considering that there are according to Stephen Hawking only three people in the world who really understood the relativity theory, meaning who really KNOW that it is correct, the rest of us, who is not that well informed about Physics and don't know how to do the math to check ourselves if it is correct: We, who don't know for sure, we have to believe that others do.

When we go to a doctor, we have to believe that he/she knows what he/she is doing, although we can't be sure unless we are doctors ourselves (and even then our knowledge could be false or outdated or not specialized enough or too specialized).

Just because someone is an Atheist, doesn't mean that this person has no faith in anything. And BTW:


As for the concept of religion, Christopher Hitchens has in my opinion a good and valid point on how organized religion is the main source of hatred in the world:


The concept of God as it is preached by Abrahamic religions (Judaism, Christianity, Islam) is the concept of an almighty being, that sees everything, hears everything, knows everything and can do everything (everything like in "not imaginably huge fuckload of stuff"). On top of that the very same religions preach that God is pure good and of course pure love and compassion.

So a critical thinking theist ... ok, now I have to make a break to laugh my ass off ... ok, back to the topic: so a critical thinking theist might end up with the problem that you either rethink the concept of almighty and assume that
A) God might not be almighty and therefore can't undo all the wrong and evil in the world,
B) our concept of right and wrong is incorrect (what would explain the mysterious ways, right?),
C) God is a sadistic bastard or
D) God simply doesn't give a shit.

Nice book on that topic is btw The Sparrow by Mary Doria Russell. I am warmly recommending it to everyone, who is critically overthinking his/her faith.

And just for the sake of it a few cutesy quotes at the end:

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I just got up. It's 8AM. Fuck my life.

There are hardly any good writers in hentai. Period.

Yepp, I had -3.5 on the left and -3.7 on the right. I started wearing contacts and first the growth stopped. Then the sight got slightly better and finally stopped at my current stats 8 years ago.
I didn't have to change my last glasses for 7 years and changed them only a year ago, because they broke. LOL.

It's copy-pasted from the NTR manga section on FAKKU.



Well, but that's life. You have a ton of teenagers getting fucked by guys they don't even like and doing it over and over again for even lesser reasons (like being "cool"). Even worse: Not enjoying it for one moment. Taking drugs, getting pregnant, dropping out of school, without a single idea about anything. I saw high school girls cheating on their boyfriends with ugly old men, just for the sake of presents and money, and getting hooked on it. Not on the old men's dicks, but on the money and presents.

BTW hedonism is nothing bad.

But you don't seem to read my remarks properly. Because we talked about stupid plots that wouldn't work like that in real life. In the past 10 years I met ONE girl, who wanted to be a wife as a career choice. I've met so many girls who gave into hedonism as you stated it above, that I gave up on counting.



I disagree. NO genre, absolutely NONE, needs stupid characters and plot holes. NTR can be turned into a very deep and well written drama. But because hentai-NTR is basically just another form of fapping material, they don't bother with much plot. They don't bother with much plot in most hentai, BECAUSE it's fapping material. Same thing porn does. Why bother with a descent story, if the majority of the audience doesn't give a crap about it?



They don't use plot holes to piss people off. Noone does that exept for trolls. They just don't bother writing anything better. A good writer can write great stories about anything. Even NTR.



Exactly!!! If they wouldn't succeed in stupid plots and characters in EVERY genre, we'd have hentai of any genre with stories the quality equal to Shakespeare.

Here is a very interesting article on marriage and monogamy: Creationism and the Marriage Debate

It is also about the view of Creationists and about homosexual marriage, but it has interesting arguments on the topic of marriage and monogamy in general.

For the ones, who are too lazy to read the whole thing:


My personal opinion based on my observations is that modern western society with it's marital laws are heavily influenced by religious views from the past. Which is rather interesting, because the world religions aren't quite that monogamous.
Modern Hinduism prefers monogamy but there are many examples of polygamy. So monogamy is prefered but polygamy is accepted. Buddhism generally takes the attitude that sex between two people who love each other is moral, whether they are married or not. As for the Muslims: It is preferred for a muslim man to marry more, although sexual desire shouldn't be the only reason for him to have several wifes.

Weirdest ones on that topic are Judaism and Christianity:


The article goes further on about the purpose of marriage in society over the centuries:






Everyone is free to decide for themselves if monogamy (and eventually marriage) is the way for them to go or not. But saying the monogamy is the ONLY right way is ignorant and judgmental.

I am lucky that I live in a country, where the government is too busy with transitions and entering the European Union to care about subcategories of a porn genre that is hardly known in this country. Heck, most people I met in Serbia since I moved back here in 2003 don't even know the terms anime or manga, not to mention hentai.

The majority in Serbia considers child abuse as something that is happening somewhere else (like in the US). A good part of the society finds homosexuality as sick (and it's also something that is mostly happening in one of those liberal countries in a land far, far away). Actually, people try to avoid talking about sex in general, but are nonetheless doing it like rabbits. I have yet to meet a couple, where the partners don't cheat on each other on regular basis. But I am going off topic ...

Most people I met in Serbia would consider me as sick and depraved for being into Loli. But most people here would consider me also as sick and depraved for my love and admiration of Shibari, or my taste for romantic and elegant BDSM scenes. People here tend to think in christian orthodox cliches and outdated socialistic values.

Whether there are RL pedophiles among Loli lovers I really cannot tell. I can only speak for myself:
I am not a pedophile. I don't find RL children sexual attractive. People who are sexually attracted to children make me sick. If someone would ever touch one of my kids, I'd do terrible things to her/him.

One of the main reasons I like Loli is that I like small breasts. Most hentais depict those enormous udder type breasts, which I hardly ever find appealing.
Second main reason: They are cuter, because of the big eyes and cutesy dresses.
Third main reason: The characters (in those Lolis I prefer) are much more innocent and romantic (damn, now I admitted that I am secretly into vanilla).

And yes, I mostly put myself into the position of the girl - which would mean that I am actually into my cute self. :D

I am totally pro and eager to participate.

English: More and more fluent with every passing day of my marriage to an american native speaker with a Columbia degree in English and comparative literature.
German: Perfectly, because I grew up in Vienna (Austria).
Serbian: Native tongue, since I was born in Serbia, but my German is far far better. (Knowing Serbian means also that I know Croatian, Bosnian and Montenegrian, because they are very similar.)

Learned Spanish in senior high for 4 years, but since I didn't use it since then, I forgot most of it.
Also, I had Latin for 8 years in high school, but that doesn't really count as knowing a language, since Latin isn't really used anywhere.

L: -3.25
R: -3.5

Constant and got even better since I was 16 and started wearing contacts. Still enjoy wearing glasses, so you can see me far more often wearing glasses than not.

Well, then you have to come to Serbia, Austria or Germany - because this burger is a seasonal special in those countries mostly around February. XD

Believe it or not: McDonald's. It's actually one of the veryveryveeeeery few things I totally dig at that place. :D

Not as exciting as someone might think, because most people celebrated the beginning of the new Millennium on the wrong New Year's Eve. The new millennium started 2001, so it was New Year's Eve on December 31st 2000, not 1999.

And yeah, I agree that is basically just a calendar change regarding the year. Happens with the months every month and we don't celebrate that. Oh wait ... another reason to party and get drunk? WOHOOO!!!

Amen, brother, amen.

I'd rather fail trying to save all of them then doing nothing.