[Question] What do girls want in a guy?

I tell people I love them, actually, when I'm drunk I tell everyone I love them lol. Sober, friends that I really cherish lots, I tell them I love them, thats only like 4 or so people so far (outside of family). But one of them I came to love within only 2 months which was surprising to me, especially since it was a guy and I've had issues with them in general that I only got over the last year or so. Those friends are more like family though. I'm not really sensitive to the word though, I think it's sweet when someone says it no matter who they are *shrugs* If someone deeply loves me romantically, I think it's shown more in actions than words.

I'm gonna go for what I do want in a guy, since I posted such a miserable post earlier.

I want a guy who can make me laugh, and someone I can be comfortable with and open with.

I want someone who is laid back and does not anger easily.
Example would be if a waitress apologized for bringing the wrong dish out, him telling her it was okay and patiently wait for his food to arrive. Not be irate or blatantly rude with her.

That's about it for my requirements.

Well, I mean, people mature a bit from when they are children, and things like that, but the big personality traits, and the things that make you who you are, don't really change.
And what's more important is that willing yourself to change doesn't really work at all.

also, you are Canadian. Other difference.

Heh, no wonder I get along so well with women, I fill most of Ayase's and Ziggy's preferred qualities. Three cheers for me! (Joking) That and I just love women, in more than a sexual and romantic way.

The one "quality" I have that I hate the most is that I laugh at almost everything, now most times this is good... however I also laugh when I'm stressed/nervous/surprised or what have you... this has made for some awkward moments. (Ex. The first three times my old girlfriend told me she loved me I laughed. Not a cruel laugh, but it seemed that way to her, why she kept trying and why she's still friends with me is beyond me. The thing is I loved her too, but it was the first time I felt that way about someone, and had them feel the same about me, and while it's hard to describe here, we had a strange relationship when we first met so I didn't really believe her the first time she said it.)

Easy:
- kind
- sense of humor
- motivated/driven
- someone i'm attracted to
- loyal & honest
- polite
- no drugs; no smoking; no/minimal alcohol
- enjoys reading

sadly, my bf is not a bibliophile like me, but he has other things going for him :]

Ah! My situation is very similar. I'm generally a smiling laughing fool, but probably only 60% of it is real. I feel so fake >_<;; It's extremely bad when I'm on the phone with someone too. My parents can tell between my real laugh and a fake one (thankfully).

I do that AND I smoke during sex.

I argue and laugh during sex, though not at the same time. Do I get any points for that?

I'm kind of sad now...I have almost all of the qualities that you describe, (And I'm not the one who says so.) but I am more lonely than anyone I know...I have no girlfriend, I have few true friends, and even less people know the real me...This sucks...

You just need to learn to love yourself.

When you love yourself, you don't need anybody else! Take it from me, you don't need other people to be happy!

[size=3]God, I'm so terribly lonely . . .[/h]

You'd get more if you did both at the same time. Also if you call her funny names and tell her you roll balls deep.



Don't feel bad, I'm all but entirely alone as well.
But I'm probably less lonely than you.
But more bitter and grumpy.

I'm probably the wrong person to comment here since I enjoy being alone most of the time, but I'd rather have just a few friends than a lot of them. Less to keep track of: birthdays, who's dating who, likes and dislikes. Not to mention less bullshit. As stated in the "Who knows you like hentai?" thread, I have four friends, all of them women and I'm perfectly happy with it as they all understand me and, even when I get into one of my randomly hyper moods where I talk nonstop, they enjoy my company and accept my faults. Take the good friends you have and say a big fuck you to everyone else! As far as having a girlfriend goes... I'm still in love with my ex (it's complicated), and I'm not looking for a relationship right now so... yeah, can't comment much there. Then again... I'm almost antisocial so this probably isn't much solace haha.

lol, that was just a joke.

I'm really not lonely, just dysfunctional. I prefer to watch and read and play stuff than spend time with people the majority of the time. My time is consumed, I enjoy myself, and others simply aren't part of the equation.

It's probably because you haven't encountered the right person at the right time. I'm 20, and I've only now gotten into a relationship.

I basically live in the library year round (I should be charged rent), which really doesn't help my love life, lol. Heck, a lot of my closest friends also are workaholics, so even a chunk of my socializing takes place inside the library.

I met my bf on a rainy day-- I saw him speed-walking towards the library, which was where I was headed. I felt sorry for him because it was around exam time and I was like "what if he gets sick? ;(" He also wasn't a complete stranger, since he sat in front of me for an entire semester in intro bio, and I also knew he was pre-med too.

So, I offered to share my umbrella, and we talked as we walked, and slowly started to get to know each other. He later told me that he was amazed that I did that, but also glad, because he would see me around campus, and he wanted to talk to me, but he just didn't know how to go about it.

It's kinda funny, because my best friend calls him "umbrella boy" and she always sings Rihanna's umbrella song when she wants to make fun of me^^;

Unfortunately, he graduated 2-3 weeks ago and he's off to med school! I still have a year and a half of college left. But, we're gonna see if we can make things work.

So... maybe you can try to save girls you potentially wanna date from getting rained on and see how it works out? ^__~

Smoking during sex *thinks* that's kinda sexy. At the same time though women might take that as them not being so good. During sex...during sex...yeah, that's kinda hot.
I've always wanted to be high during sex as well, maybe someday...



I think true friends these days are really rare. I have one girl friend that can read me like a book, which took us about...7 years of friendship for us to get that way. Just recently I've met a guy friend who I feel can take me for all my flaws and I can show him my true side. Maybe cause he's the first guy I've opened myself up to in a long time. He's definately someone I see like an older brother.
Hopefully you will meet people that will inspire you to have trust in them. I find very few come along that want such a deep friendship. How old are you?

People can be a real bother anyway, man.


Just don't get that kind of dead-to-the-world-passed-out high. Cause, you know... you'll be passed out. But otherwise, it's not a bad idea.
Oh, and smoking during sex doesn't mean she's not good. It only adds to the experience. And makes me more awesome.

I'm 19, and still in High School. (Well, for another...umm...13 days...) I came back for one more semester of classes. I'm happy I'm there though, I may have finally met a girl that likes me. (Lets hope things go well in the next couple days...I plan on telling her I like her.)

I don't mind the lack of close friends, I have plenty around here. I'm also a little anti-social. It just makes me a little sad that no one has really told me that they like me. (Well, except for this girl I knew who was an extremely heavy drug user...wasn't gonna touch that...)

I realize I sounded a little down there, but I'm happy for now, I'd just like to have someone to love. (It may sound sad, but I've never had a girlfriend...I'm 19 and I've never even been out on a date...)

18 and I've never been on a date either, call me crazy but when I refer to my ex it was an internet relationship heh. Before I met her I had a few crushes but was too shy to act on them. With her, she initiated the relationship and I was just a lot more comfortable around her, and it was just something more. The distance killed the romantic relationship, but hey we're still best friends so whatever. As for other things most have done by our age in a relationship... I'm a virgin in basically every meaning of the word, the most I've done is hug a friend and dance with a stranger during gym, but this is because I haven't wanted a relationship yet, my hobbies take too much of my life.

Alright, I'm done threadjacking.

He's got to be:

Brutally honest.
Quiet but not shy.
Faithful and trustworthy.
Caring.
Awesome in bed.
Strong enough to lift me (not all that difficult since I'm tiny.)
With a good sense of humour.

Looks wise Dark hair, brown eyes and a stunning smile are all a must.

But most of all he has to love me.

My boyfriend fits all the criteria nicely.