[Question] What do girls want in a guy?
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I've only had one real girlfriend and I never went on a real date. I mean, I went places with her and shit, but it was never like... taking her out or something, you know?
I don't make friends easily. So I have very few. But I actually trust my friends to some degree.
I'm bored all the time because of this though, because my family lives in Virginia and almost all my friends live in Michigan, and I was forced to live around my family at 17 and haven't had the money to move yet.
I don't make friends easily. So I have very few. But I actually trust my friends to some degree.
I'm bored all the time because of this though, because my family lives in Virginia and almost all my friends live in Michigan, and I was forced to live around my family at 17 and haven't had the money to move yet.
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A guy should be:
*Courageous to an extent
*Smart! Stupid people tend to bother me. Not GENIUS smart,(though that would be awesome) but the guy has to at least have average intelligence for his age.
*Sense of humour, but knows when it's innappriopriate to make certain jokes
*Gamer! Someone who'll play video games with me/watch me play/let me watch him play.
*Someone who I can watch anime with ^^ (I think watching hentai with anyone would be awkward, but I'd give it a try if he was up for it XP)
*Generally honest, but there are some lies that I'd consider acceptable under certain circumstances.
*Lastly, someone who can accept my many...dysfunctional aspects. Basically, when I graduate and am released into the real world, I'm going to crash. I need a guy who will understand that I'm gonna need some support. I'd rather not rely on my family or current friends
Some of my physical likes are glasses, tall, and dark hair ^^
Of course, even if I ever find a guy like this, I'll always be single XP I don't really count on ever being in a real relationship, on the grounds that most men are shallow, to an extent. I'm not obese, but I'm a little overweight. My complexion isn't perfect. Also, my nose is abnormally wide, but THAT I can't help. I've got tons of friends, but I have some sort of complex or something, so I spend a lot of my time reading alone, or just standing off to the side silently while all of my friends socialize and what not. I tend to get tired of being around groups of people after a while, and become unpleasant because of it, so I slip into the background to avoid being a complete jerk. I don't think they usually notice, anyway.
In general, I think I'm doomed in the way of relationships. I'll cope on my own XP I use anime, manga, and video games to fill the emotional gap most of the time ~_~' I'm kinda pathetic, now that I think about it XP I'm done ranting now. Sorry ^^ That was lengthy
*Courageous to an extent
*Smart! Stupid people tend to bother me. Not GENIUS smart,(though that would be awesome) but the guy has to at least have average intelligence for his age.
*Sense of humour, but knows when it's innappriopriate to make certain jokes
*Gamer! Someone who'll play video games with me/watch me play/let me watch him play.
*Someone who I can watch anime with ^^ (I think watching hentai with anyone would be awkward, but I'd give it a try if he was up for it XP)
*Generally honest, but there are some lies that I'd consider acceptable under certain circumstances.
*Lastly, someone who can accept my many...dysfunctional aspects. Basically, when I graduate and am released into the real world, I'm going to crash. I need a guy who will understand that I'm gonna need some support. I'd rather not rely on my family or current friends
Some of my physical likes are glasses, tall, and dark hair ^^
Of course, even if I ever find a guy like this, I'll always be single XP I don't really count on ever being in a real relationship, on the grounds that most men are shallow, to an extent. I'm not obese, but I'm a little overweight. My complexion isn't perfect. Also, my nose is abnormally wide, but THAT I can't help. I've got tons of friends, but I have some sort of complex or something, so I spend a lot of my time reading alone, or just standing off to the side silently while all of my friends socialize and what not. I tend to get tired of being around groups of people after a while, and become unpleasant because of it, so I slip into the background to avoid being a complete jerk. I don't think they usually notice, anyway.
In general, I think I'm doomed in the way of relationships. I'll cope on my own XP I use anime, manga, and video games to fill the emotional gap most of the time ~_~' I'm kinda pathetic, now that I think about it XP I'm done ranting now. Sorry ^^ That was lengthy
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GinTheDark132 wrote...
A guy should be:*Courageous to an extent
*Smart! Stupid people tend to bother me. Not GENIUS smart,(though that would be awesome) but the guy has to at least have average intelligence for his age.
*Sense of humour, but knows when it's innappriopriate to make certain jokes
*Gamer! Someone who'll play video games with me/watch me play/let me watch him play.
*Someone who I can watch anime with ^^ (I think watching hentai with anyone would be awkward, but I'd give it a try if he was up for it XP)
*Generally honest, but there are some lies that I'd consider acceptable under certain circumstances.
*Lastly, someone who can accept my many...dysfunctional aspects. Basically, when I graduate and am released into the real world, I'm going to crash. I need a guy who will understand that I'm gonna need some support. I'd rather not rely on my family or current friends
Some of my physical likes are glasses, tall, and dark hair ^^
Of course, even if I ever find a guy like this, I'll always be single XP I don't really count on ever being in a real relationship, on the grounds that most men are shallow, to an extent. I'm not obese, but I'm a little overweight. My complexion isn't perfect. Also, my nose is abnormally wide, but THAT I can't help. I've got tons of friends, but I have some sort of complex or something, so I spend a lot of my time reading alone, or just standing off to the side silently while all of my friends socialize and what not. I tend to get tired of being around groups of people after a while, and become unpleasant because of it, so I slip into the background to avoid being a complete jerk. I don't think they usually notice, anyway.
In general, I think I'm doomed in the way of relationships. I'll cope on my own XP I use anime, manga, and video games to fill the emotional gap most of the time ~_~' I'm kinda pathetic, now that I think about it XP I'm done ranting now. Sorry ^^ That was lengthy
your not pathetic at all *nods* and dont appologize for ranting, everyone's gotta do it at some time or another. and your not doomed either. their are lots of guys who play VG's that fit your description. and that last one about your dysfunctional aspects. dont think so hard on it, take your time and you wont likely crash and somtimes you have to rely on others, i hate it also but ive got to from time to time (got lots of stress in my life lol)
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@Gin
Either you're not pathetic, or we both are haha, so I'm gonna say no you're not. I find myself similar to more and more people here. Back when I was in a normal high school I'd always spend my lunches reading and listening to my friends but rarely commenting. I like my friends, but overall people tend to bug me. As far as people being shallow goes... humans would be doomed if we worried overmuch about looks. I've never bothered to try to keep myself looking good so my complexion sorta sucks, I let my nails and hair grow until they start to bug me, etc. *Insert "cliched" you'll find the right person eventually statement* And as far as using your hobbies to fill emotional gaps... done it my whole life, and it's not that satisfying after a while but I still do it heh.
Also, rants ftw.
Either you're not pathetic, or we both are haha, so I'm gonna say no you're not. I find myself similar to more and more people here. Back when I was in a normal high school I'd always spend my lunches reading and listening to my friends but rarely commenting. I like my friends, but overall people tend to bug me. As far as people being shallow goes... humans would be doomed if we worried overmuch about looks. I've never bothered to try to keep myself looking good so my complexion sorta sucks, I let my nails and hair grow until they start to bug me, etc. *Insert "cliched" you'll find the right person eventually statement* And as far as using your hobbies to fill emotional gaps... done it my whole life, and it's not that satisfying after a while but I still do it heh.
Also, rants ftw.
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GinTheDark132 wrote...
Of course, even if I ever find a guy like this, I'll always be single XP I don't really count on ever being in a real relationship, on the grounds that most men are shallow, to an extent. I'm not obese, but I'm a little overweight. My complexion isn't perfect. Also, my nose is abnormally wide, but THAT I can't help. I've got tons of friends, but I have some sort of complex or something, so I spend a lot of my time reading alone, or just standing off to the side silently while all of my friends socialize and what not. I tend to get tired of being around groups of people after a while, and become unpleasant because of it, so I slip into the background to avoid being a complete jerk. I don't think they usually notice, anyway.Omg, you are way too hard on yourself there. I nick pick at stuff too and it took me a while to realize that guys don't really notice things individually and think about everything a girl has done to make herself look attractive (makeup, jewlery, matching shoes, etc...) but rather the whole picture. In a way that made me feel better and made me not focus on individual things so much.
In my next relationship, the thing I would probably most worry about is getting bored with the guy. If I'm around people a lot I get bored with them very easily, either bored or annoyed LoL. So I can't be someone who see's a guy every day of the week or talks on the phone every day because that would drive me insane. Texting every day I could totally do though =p But yeah, I'd be afraid of that first and foremost.
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Ayase wrote...
GinTheDark132 wrote...
Of course, even if I ever find a guy like this, I'll always be single XP I don't really count on ever being in a real relationship, on the grounds that most men are shallow, to an extent. I'm not obese, but I'm a little overweight. My complexion isn't perfect. Also, my nose is abnormally wide, but THAT I can't help. I've got tons of friends, but I have some sort of complex or something, so I spend a lot of my time reading alone, or just standing off to the side silently while all of my friends socialize and what not. I tend to get tired of being around groups of people after a while, and become unpleasant because of it, so I slip into the background to avoid being a complete jerk. I don't think they usually notice, anyway.Omg, you are way too hard on yourself there. I nick pick at stuff too and it took me a while to realize that guys don't really notice things individually and think about everything a girl has done to make herself look attractive (makeup, jewlery, matching shoes, etc...) but rather the whole picture. In a way that made me feel better and made me not focus on individual things so much.
In my next relationship, the thing I would probably most worry about is getting bored with the guy. If I'm around people a lot I get bored with them very easily, either bored or annoyed LoL. So I can't be someone who see's a guy every day of the week or talks on the phone every day because that would drive me insane. Texting every day I could totally do though =p But yeah, I'd be afraid of that first and foremost.
i dont really like make-up on women. it hides their true beauty. and i often see women who use WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY too much make-up its disgusting lol
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first i observe them what they like or anything but i don't like to dig their past because girl must have secret if we dig she will cry and she won't response to anything you say!! well that hard if you screw out it
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Actually, the only thing I'm looking for in a guy is if he makes my heart thump! My heart has only thumped for one guy, but it was still a fruitless, one-sided love. I just want someone there who can make everything seem so much more fun than it is. Exciting, I guess?
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Ayase wrote...
yasha507 wrote...
Yeah that's so true, if a guy say's he likes a girl for her personality that's bullshit because it's more like 70%-80% and the rest others.. we're dicks.. D:
Unless you're in love or something, then again ppl define love differently
Aye just popping up a point, some guys use the word love freely, idk i know some girls that are sensitive to that word.
"i love you"
"no you don't.."
I tell people I love them, actually, when I'm drunk I tell everyone I love them lol. Sober, friends that I really cherish lots, I tell them I love them, thats only like 4 or so people so far (outside of family). But one of them I came to love within only 2 months which was surprising to me, especially since it was a guy and I've had issues with them in general that I only got over the last year or so. Those friends are more like family though. I'm not really sensitive to the word though, I think it's sweet when someone says it no matter who they are *shrugs* If someone deeply loves me romantically, I think it's shown more in actions than words.
Maybe its just me, but I feel that the word "love" has degraded in value. To me, love is a word that carries extraordinary amounts of weight, and shouldn't be used so lightly.
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to me someone who will try. you dont have to be perfect but if your willing to try at our relationship thats all i ask
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I can really relate with quite a few of you, makes me feel a little relieved about myself.
I'm 18, about to turn 19, and I also never had a GF before, it really bums me out...
I wish that I could use all this neat info to help me on my quest for "love," but unfortunately I'm too much of a chicken shit to do or say anything. so, meh... what can I do.
well thats enough of my dumb rant ^_^
OT: I really hate to hijack this thread, but I have a quick question for the females here.
do some of you find being shy attractive or, in some way, "cute"?
I'm 18, about to turn 19, and I also never had a GF before, it really bums me out...
I wish that I could use all this neat info to help me on my quest for "love," but unfortunately I'm too much of a chicken shit to do or say anything. so, meh... what can I do.
well thats enough of my dumb rant ^_^
OT: I really hate to hijack this thread, but I have a quick question for the females here.
do some of you find being shy attractive or, in some way, "cute"?
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@ NewCultKing - maybe, but more like in a "baby turtles are cute" type of cute. Not an attraction type of cute. Plus what are you afraid of? Girls are people too - they're not better than you. Don't place them on a petestal like an awesome unreachable object. Give yourself some credit.
Very easy...
Unfortunately even if you fallow all of these rules, her happiness is not guaranteed. She could be submerged by a perfect life and go away with the first drinker, casanova fucking bastard she meet...
No, it's just a joke, I know, it's impossible to do this XD
I think both men and wowen must have an arrangement in the beginning of the relation between them.
Why it's just the man who must change? I'm not agree ^^
That was a very bad list. That sounds like a perfect person - and nobody REALLY wants a perfect person. The imperfections are what make us all unique. I don't care if you can't do this or that or lack certain skills. I just want someone who makes me happy and makes my life feel like an adventure. And that doesn't mean some wild crazy adventure - I just want to feel like I'm not going through the motions day by day with him. Tease me, be spontaneous, talk all night with me, stay by me and don't talk at all, make me laugh or make me feel butterflys, I just want to feel alive and in love - it doesn't matter how either. Just figure out a way to make that connection. It isn't a science and thats what makes it fun and special.
Kissing my feet and waiting on me hand and foot is just worshipping me - and I don't want to be worshipped (not ALL the time anyways ;)) I just want to have a connection - a relationship. I think think anyone can pinpoint what makes that connection happen. If they could it wouldn't be a mystery and all the magic would be gone.
Xilamech wrote...
What do girls want in a guy?Very easy...
Spoiler:
Unfortunately even if you fallow all of these rules, her happiness is not guaranteed. She could be submerged by a perfect life and go away with the first drinker, casanova fucking bastard she meet...
No, it's just a joke, I know, it's impossible to do this XD
I think both men and wowen must have an arrangement in the beginning of the relation between them.
Why it's just the man who must change? I'm not agree ^^
That was a very bad list. That sounds like a perfect person - and nobody REALLY wants a perfect person. The imperfections are what make us all unique. I don't care if you can't do this or that or lack certain skills. I just want someone who makes me happy and makes my life feel like an adventure. And that doesn't mean some wild crazy adventure - I just want to feel like I'm not going through the motions day by day with him. Tease me, be spontaneous, talk all night with me, stay by me and don't talk at all, make me laugh or make me feel butterflys, I just want to feel alive and in love - it doesn't matter how either. Just figure out a way to make that connection. It isn't a science and thats what makes it fun and special.
Kissing my feet and waiting on me hand and foot is just worshipping me - and I don't want to be worshipped (not ALL the time anyways ;)) I just want to have a connection - a relationship. I think think anyone can pinpoint what makes that connection happen. If they could it wouldn't be a mystery and all the magic would be gone.
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Ah, man. Not a single list of qualities I conform too.
GUESS I'LL HAVE TO BECOME A RAPIST THEN. j/k.
GUESS I'LL HAVE TO BECOME A RAPIST THEN. j/k.
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asaforever
The Lord of Butts!
i think trustworthy and reliable are the most factors for every girl whos looking for the real love.
Girls? statements please^_^
Girls? statements please^_^
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Here's a small list of what girls/women generally want in a guy:
-confident
-protective
-social
-funny/good humour
-clean and pleasant appearance (not neccesarilly well-made/muscular)
-loving and caring, but not too jelous/possesive
AND one of the most important: -good in bed
If you know how to push her buttons, you have that much more of a chance to make her fall in love with you.
-confident
-protective
-social
-funny/good humour
-clean and pleasant appearance (not neccesarilly well-made/muscular)
-loving and caring, but not too jelous/possesive
AND one of the most important: -good in bed
If you know how to push her buttons, you have that much more of a chance to make her fall in love with you.
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ShaggyJebus wrote...
'even if you're the funniest girl around and exude in confidence, if you're ugly, we won't touch you'Last time I checked, we couldn't have sex with your confidence.
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I think every girl has a mental checklist of what they want in their ideal guy. Personally I want:
- taller than me (I'm 169cm)
- older or more mature than I am
- smarter than me in some form
- has an admirable trait (ie: great at computers or excellent at soccer)
- has a good sense of humour
- loves my quirkiness, and is understanding towards my busy schedule
- accepts or is also into: anime/manga/cosplay/gaming
- Preferably average weight or skinnier
- treats me like a princess =D
- love both my appearance and personality
- Preferably Taiwanese or just Asian
- A little shy, but still confident (I like a little mystery)
- Can hold a wide range of conversations with me: from very shallow to very deep
Appearances --- it's just a threshold a guy needs to pass
For some reason, I get the impression that nerdy guys are more loyal/caring. I usually lean towards the geekier crowd.
However, even if some guy fits all the characteristics on my checklist, I wouldn't necessarily be into him. I might be interested... but something else has to be there. We have to click. So far... I'm not feeling anything (why am I always so cold?!)
But you don't always fall for your ideal right?
- taller than me (I'm 169cm)
- older or more mature than I am
- smarter than me in some form
- has an admirable trait (ie: great at computers or excellent at soccer)
- has a good sense of humour
- loves my quirkiness, and is understanding towards my busy schedule
- accepts or is also into: anime/manga/cosplay/gaming
- Preferably average weight or skinnier
- treats me like a princess =D
- love both my appearance and personality
- Preferably Taiwanese or just Asian
- A little shy, but still confident (I like a little mystery)
- Can hold a wide range of conversations with me: from very shallow to very deep
Appearances --- it's just a threshold a guy needs to pass
For some reason, I get the impression that nerdy guys are more loyal/caring. I usually lean towards the geekier crowd.
However, even if some guy fits all the characteristics on my checklist, I wouldn't necessarily be into him. I might be interested... but something else has to be there. We have to click. So far... I'm not feeling anything (why am I always so cold?!)
But you don't always fall for your ideal right?
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NewCultKing wrote...
I can really relate with quite a few of you, makes me feel a little relieved about myself.I'm 18, about to turn 19, and I also never had a GF before, it really bums me out...
I wish that I could use all this neat info to help me on my quest for "love," but unfortunately I'm too much of a chicken shit to do or say anything. so, meh... what can I do.
well thats enough of my dumb rant ^_^
OT: I really hate to hijack this thread, but I have a quick question for the females here.
do some of you find being shy attractive or, in some way, "cute"?
i find shyness very cute as long as its not to the point where your too shy to make any moves or express any feelings.