[Question] What do girls want in a guy?

I think he was being (slightly) sarcastic. If not, I don't blame him. It does feel that way sometimes.

As for the rest of it; Love isn't a science? Ohohohoho... I'd have to disagree, but that's just me. Love is a relatively complicated science with so much guess and check, hypothesis, and experimentation it's mind-boggling. But it is fun. I won't disagree there.

I don't think that is cold at all. Sometimes people worry to much about fitting what they think is "what a girl wants" in a guy. I think we have an idea but I don't think we even completely know ourselves - and I don't think guys do either. There has to be that unexplainable connection and chemistry.

I think, if you fit my list then I'll go out with you on a date. But if you don't create chemistry and make me feel attracted too you, things aren't going to last.

From what I heard from my girl friends (not girlfriends; just friends who are girls) guys need to look pleasing to the eyes (not an eyesore), has to look like he has confidence and has to be funny.

Also they hinted he has to have a muscular body and a big *ehem* coz it's a BONUS, they say!

ROFL

I'd assume what girls look for in a guy changes as they get older. Hell, that's probably a captain obvious statement.

Seeing how we're all 18+, here's what a 20 year old guy thinks a 18-22 year old girl would want. I'll list off the obvious stuff first. Faithful, good looking, sense of humor, a willingness to compromise, looks confident.

After that stuff, here's what I THINK. I'm probably so wrong it's pathetic. Ah well.

Pays for dates. I'm old school and more of a traditionalist, so I feel a guy should. It'd be great if she's willing to pay for half, but a guy should pay AT LEAST half and expect to pay for all of it.

Wittiness. This goes more with the sense of humor thing, but as I see it, girls like to talk, and a guy should be able to think on his feet and come up with clever things to say.

Shares your general interests. If she likes cats and I hate cats and she owns a cat, meh. I'm not saying she has to like everything you do, but you have to have SOME things in common.

Cares about his appearance in public. Most guys, myself included, more or less wear a t-shirt and jeans or shorts at home that clash horribly, don't shave for a few days, and have unkempt hair. I think that would be fine with her as long as we tidy up for outings. She has to be seen with you after all.

Can defend himself and her. If push comes to shove, she would want to feel safe with you. If someone insults her, you should know how to defend her with words.

And that's all I've got for now. Girls are impossible to figure out. I think some mathematician proved that. It was sixty pages long and he won a fields medal for it.

I agree!

I have a friend who's 22... no doubt pretty...and expects her boyfriend to pay for everything. I was surprised when I saw him, because he looked totally below her league (chubby and not really in a cute way either). However, it all made sense when we saw his car... and how she pointed at things she wanted from the menu---and it wasn't cheap!

My hot 26 year old sister says that the first guy MUST pay for the first date, or else he's off her books for good.

I'm stating the obvious when I say that some girls will date you for your wallet. Not that it's not 'love' ... but she wouldn't have dated you to begin with otherwise. I guess that's okay if she's hot?

I'm 19 and I feel uneasy if a guy pays for me---it makes me feel like they expect something in return. I don't let them pay unless I know I can reciprocate feelings. That being said, he should at least offer to pay...+5 bonus points for just offering. If he never offers to pay for it all... he's out of my books too.

That's what I meant by "he should expect to pay for all of it." I phrased that miserably.

Good to know I'm not a total lost cause in reading women ;) Though...



That was something I didn't know. Sounds like it'd create an awkward situation. If you're just meeting a friend for lunch or whatnot, I'd agree that a guy shouldn't pay for that. But if it's a date scenario, I feel a guy should pay. The girl's responsibility in that situation would be to order modestly; not expensive, but not overly cheap either. Give or take five bucks of what the guy's getting is ideal. To me anyways; this is all my opinion after all.

I personally never expected anything out of my date after having paid for her meal. Well, maybe permission to go out together again or give her a call later or whatnot if I enjoyed her company.

I'm still single, so my opinion probably blows. :)

I think your opinions are completely valid. I've been single for awhile now: I'm not too sure what I want anymore...
IT'S ALL LUCK! hahaha

I also felt like I was being put under and obligation of some sort when a guy goes overboard with paying for things. I told my prom date not to go to overboard on things because I didn't want him thinking "I spent $300 dollars on this night! I better get some action!"

You know what ticks me off about that though? At least 6/10 guys think that way.
Hell, when I did prom (did it twice, once for myself and once for a gf at the time) Nearly every guy willing to spend cash that wasnt his parents expected sex in return for his monetary contributions. It pissed me off to be honest.

I actually got into a scuffle that night because one prick tried to push himself onto his date, she was friends with my date, and my morals alone would of made me act, but i stepped in.

Anyhow, long story short, your right, but not all guys are like that. I hope.... unless im truly one of a kind? =)

You are not one alone, but I think you are right in saying that about over half the guys think that way. Unfortunately, it passes over into adulthood for some.

"What do girls want in a guy?"

Money

Good Looks

Sex

Epic list here

Bitter bunch here. I'm sure I posted in here once before somewhere. Just responsibility, fun to be with, and who will treat me nice.

Define fun to be with.

Girls really want a guy who:
1) Has good symmetry
2) Is tall
3) Has money

Everything else is pretty much apology for why she's settling for a guy who isn't tall/symmetrical/wealthy. Guys tend to get a lot of flak for being superficial about physical appearance, but the truth is women are way more superficial about looks than men are... they just happen to be more eloquent about describing secondary appealing features than men are.

If you think I'm exaggerating here, consider the fact that women spend a lot more time worrying about their physical appearance than men do. Now consider the fact that people want a partner who has essentially the same values as they do... that means that women who put greater stock in personal appearance will likewise put greater stock in the physical appearance of their partners. Now you might argue that such preoccupation with personal appearance is due to societal pressure, which is true- however I assure you that such pressure doesn't originate from the male side of society.

I love guys who don't know very much about women and come up to conclusions like this. :?

I can see where you're coming from though, but I wouldn't agree with it. You mentioned that someone could argue that the reason a girl has that level of preoccupation with her appearance due to societal pressure, which you agree is true - but you assure that it isn't due to the male population? What?

Women have been considered as sex/beauty symbols since... forever. Who do you think decided that?

And as for the definition of being fun to be with, I can watch movies with them, play video games, chill together and just enjoy each others company.

It's not my personal opinion, that's what I've gathered from watching a lot of documentaries about relationship science. The fact of the matter is, men who have ideal physical beauty are far greater advantage against average men than the advantage beautiful women have over average women.

Granted this is in the venue of casual dating. When looking for a serious life partner genuine concerns do arise, such as "What kind of a father would he be?", "Will I be able to stand dozens of years with him as my primary source of companionship?", etc. I can't remember who it was, but I do recall one lady comic commenting on this counterproductive nature women have when looking for a partner, "All of a sudden, that guy who couldn't dance starts looking awfully cute when he's carrying a diaper bag."



About men not being the source of physical objectification. Women aren't pressured into self objectification by men, they're done so by their peers, it may be done under the deluded belief than men want that, but the truth is real pressure isn't coming from men. The simplest of google searches found me this:

http://www.omninerd.com/articles/Why_Women_Dress_Up_and_Get_Cosmetic_Surgery



Edit: I'm not trying to claim that men are totally non-superficial about this, just that there is a disconnect between what men actually want and what women think men want. There is a minimum bar for beauty, but it's such that 70% percent of men would be accepting of 70% of women (arbitrary numbers, I don't want to sound like I'm quoting someone here). Once that bar is met, being more beautiful is substantially less important than something like "is she smiling in general or is she smiling at/because of me?" The impression that romantic persuit isn't a fundamental waste of time is a whole lot sexier than having more ideal curvature.

they need what they really need. right?

think about this for a second i realize this question to open this question hard to answer consider there million or billion girls out there and all of them are different with different taste so it not something that can be answer easy unless we are talking about a specific type of person it like same thing with boy some may think this girl is attractive and hot but some don't like her