So, what should I do now?

when I read this I imagined mordin from mass effect. lol

anyways, they pretty much said it, the best way is to move out and live by yourself since you doon't have any close relatives or friends to stay with. Getting any job would be good to start with, you just can't be picky about them.

This is an example of Asian parenting at it's finest. It is something that was inherited by your mom from her parents who got it from hers and so on.

It is pretty clear that your relationship with your mom is complicated and your mom is a cunt has her issues. I have similar issues with my mom, so I'll try to help you out.

Since you can't move out of home, you'll have to bear with her for at least a couple of years.

The next time your mother shouts at you, confront her, don't shout, instead, be calm, talk rationally, don't get argumentative. If she continues shouting, let her finish shouting, then speak. It makes her look like an idiot and hopefully she'll calm down after the 1st few volleys.

Do as you are told. It's just what is expected. Parents are highly intolerant to disobedience. Also, they like the ego boost of being in control. It also spares you from another shouting competition.

Make long term plans to move out of your house. Try to get into a hostel or get a job(preferably out of your home town).

I'm sad to know what your mom did. Hopefully this will be of some help. My mom used to be very abusive. I've been using these since I was 15 and it's been under control.

I guess I can better understand why you refer to them as "-ex" family members.

The best thing to do is to actual do something about it. I'd suggest leaving that home and finding a job.

As for how you handle your mom/family issue...That's completely up to whether you want to forgive them and move on.

Good luck.

1. Abuse doesn't build character. It builds insecurities, disorders, behavioral problems, rage, trust issues, psychosis... Oh, should I keep going? No? IT'S NOT SOMETHING YOU SHOULD BE EXPERIENCING, PERIOD.

2. Yes, Unfortunately Abuse is pretty common. IT'S FUCKED UP, UNHEALTHY, AND BREEDS CRIMINALS but for some reason not enough people are willing to stop it.

3. Good experience? Are you fucking kidding me? You're losing your mind. Someone who, by law, is supposed to protect you from harm, is HARMING YOU.

The only action to take is to flee. It is the only possible way you will have a chance to be a functioning adult. There's no 'communicating' with abusers. Since the tiniest of trespasses put her in a physically violent rage, it is clear that she is psychotic. Psychotics cannot be reasoned with because they have no rationality.

You need to get out. It doesn't matter if you're not very close with someone, what matters is that you're SAFE.

Please, take me seriously.

I just left a situation like that. I had only fragments of my sanity by the time I got out. It's not too late for you, and if you don't do something so help me God I will... do.. something.

somehow.

Just fucking run, dude.

Edit: Wow, the responses in this thread seriously make me want to cry.

HE GOT CUT. THE FUCK IS THE MATTER WITH YOU PEOPLE?! 'JUST BEAR WITH IT?' DOES THAT SERIOUSLY SOUND HEALTHY TO YOU?!

If I were you I'd look at getting your mum professional help from various kinds of support services or have her committed to a mental hospital but depending where you live it might not be a good idea. My mum has went to mental hospitals a few times when life has been a bit stressful and it's helped and had the help of support not to revert back because when she gets stressed out she complains about trivial thing and gets depressed though she often says sorry if she was out of line eventually. It also helps to avoid doing the things that piss her off.

Dammm...my only advice would be to get out as soon as possible, but i realize that is not always easy. Unfortunately i can relate to you a bit on this front. My mom has never pulled a knife on me(or my brothers) but she has a habit of taking her stress out on the family.

A week ago when she came home from work she was mad because there was a cereal bowl and a spoon not washed, and stood right next to me while making me wash it.My mom is also a bit of a perfectionist, so she started yelling and hitting me over every little thing i did wrong/not up to her standards.

Unfortunately we can't choose our parents

What the fuck man. Shit cut her too.

Rise, you already know my answer. So now I want to know, what are you going to do?

Stop being a victim and stand up to her. The way I see it, there is only so much she can do before you can, legally, beat the shit out of her in self defense.

The next time she takes a knife to you, cut that bitch.

You share the same blood. 1 up her and get a sword.

So... why did your mom pull a knife on you for turning on torrents?

As for me, when my mum pulled the knife on me, I disarmed her so she wouldn't stab me or herself.

It's against the law to pull a knife on anyone in the United States even if they are your parents or children.

Honestly, I wanna get out of here. When I was abused for three days straight (on which my older ex-brother attacked me as well), I was quite serious about getting out of the house, but people stopped me because I didn't have any money or job. It was made sure that I'd do no jobs or anything simply because that bitch-who-pulled-a-knife on me doesn't like it, because it'd be restaurant and the likes, and she doesn't want me to be some worker on a place like that. Basically, she acts as though we're some super rich family with high reputation in the society.

And besides, I'm not sure where to go... BEEN WANTING TO GO TO THE STATES OR JAPAN (I'm such a weaboo lol, and I don't even know the language yet), BUT I DUNNO, THAT MUCH EXPENSES IS JUST WAY BEYOND ME.

So yeah... I'm literally trapped within a cage.



About the perfectionist part... I can relate to that; she has a habit of yelling hard when someone would spill anything on the table, even water.



I don't have a katana... lol.



Will do... maybe...



Delaying my short walk to bed.

Exactly my thoughts, specially the bolded part. Was afraid I was gonna be the only one here who thinks she is insane. Parents slapping kids for behaving badly is understandable, but threatening with a knife and then cutting you, for almost nothing?!

Get out of there ASAP, or see if you can get help from the police or something alike where you live.



Try to get one without her knowing, and if possible, in another city, and don't give her your address.

The police is corrupted, or so Art had mentioned in Skype. Ex-dad is good with bribing I believe... which is something I despise.

Don't really know anything about your country, but you can also say the police is kinda corrupted around here, but they can still do their job just fine on most cases. Might not be the case there, though.

Isn't there any abuse report thing there? (Like assistance with woman and children abuse, etc)

Not that I know of...

Well, not COMPLETELY corrupt, but I do talk to Rise, and from everything I've gathered, I wouldn't put it past his family to actually bribe the system and keep him here.

Either way Rise, you could at least try to find out if you CAN at least report the abuse. Plan out before you actually report away, though.

well...my mother used to scold me in public place and sometimes she still hit me with a broom but she never beat me with a sharp things like knive,i guess my mom isn't the worst

I'm guessing you are small in stature compared to your mother?Abusive parents get a power trip from hurting their smaller children. Best way to stop it is by fighting back, stare into her eyes, and grab her hands. Tell her sternly that you had enough of her abuse and you won't take it anymore.

There was this kid named Brian who lived in the same neighborhood as me. His father kicked his ass literally in the front lawn and continued to kick him in the gut. Police never came. Brian was only 11 at that time. After High School he enlisted in the Marine Corps. Saw him at a class reunion last fall and asked him if he ever wanted to beat up his dad, he said, No, I don't ever want to sink to his level. He's diesel now and quite handsome.

If Brian aka skinny bones can survive an abusive family you can too, Cinia Pacifica.

Action speaks louder than words, not saying I'm for or against but.......
Run Away? (But I think your computer is preventing it)