So, what should I do now?
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Cinia Pacifica
Ojou-sama Writer
Shinzumakami wrote...
Action speaks louder than words, not saying I'm for or against but.......Run Away? (But I think your computer is preventing it)
Spoiler:
I'm not quite up for the jokes.
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Cinia Pacifica wrote...
Shinzumakami wrote...
Action speaks louder than words, not saying I'm for or against but.......Run Away? (But I think your computer is preventing it)
Spoiler:
I'm not quite up for the jokes.
I was looking for an "adventure" image..... thats the best I could find.
OT: My only true advice is you should just try and get use to pain like I have. From past post it looks like your going to be with her for some time, can't give you personal advice since I know nothing about you and your relationship with your mom.
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Seriously, the hell is wrong with you people? "Handle the pain"? "Someone else was in a similar situation and handled it and so you can too"?
HE GOT CUT! Its not just his mother scolding or slapping him. While physical punishment may be be used to teach a child, they are meant to induce brief pain, a pavlovian method, not to threaten his life or leave scars. It was not a broomstick, a belt or slippers but a knife. One stab in his torso and he was going directly to the ER (or coffin, depending how bad his mom wanted him to sleep, eternally), one in his head and he's likely dead. And if someone else was abused and handled it without trying to escape, he's a moron. Parents are NOT supposed to threaten their kids life, they are supposed to take care of them. If they do threaten their lives while "taking care" of them, guess what? They are not taking care at all.
To me, it sounds your mom has serious issues, not you. Get a psychiatrist to her, she needs to review her own values, no amount of stress should reasonably outburst in that kind of reaction. And search protection from anything you can trust. No friends? Try school, teachers, police officers, something, anything. So that if anything seriously bad happens you will have people who can confirm you story. Now get cautious around her till you manage to leave home, you have the right to do so, she broke your trust.
HE GOT CUT! Its not just his mother scolding or slapping him. While physical punishment may be be used to teach a child, they are meant to induce brief pain, a pavlovian method, not to threaten his life or leave scars. It was not a broomstick, a belt or slippers but a knife. One stab in his torso and he was going directly to the ER (or coffin, depending how bad his mom wanted him to sleep, eternally), one in his head and he's likely dead. And if someone else was abused and handled it without trying to escape, he's a moron. Parents are NOT supposed to threaten their kids life, they are supposed to take care of them. If they do threaten their lives while "taking care" of them, guess what? They are not taking care at all.
To me, it sounds your mom has serious issues, not you. Get a psychiatrist to her, she needs to review her own values, no amount of stress should reasonably outburst in that kind of reaction. And search protection from anything you can trust. No friends? Try school, teachers, police officers, something, anything. So that if anything seriously bad happens you will have people who can confirm you story. Now get cautious around her till you manage to leave home, you have the right to do so, she broke your trust.
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artcellrox
The Grey Knight :y
42 wrote...
Seriously, the hell is wrong with you people? "Handle the pain"? "Someone else was in a similar situation and handled it and so you can too"?I decided to count the number of responses that said stay and fight (after reading this and Kittie's post), and honestly, even though it's a close ratio, I still think more people are saying to get away from her and, if possible, move out. This is, of course, disregarding everything lollollol12, animefreak_usa and NeoStriker said (the first guy' a troll, the second is just... Freaky, and the third... no comment).
Yeah, thought I'd just point that out. :/
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artcellrox wrote...
42 wrote...
Seriously, the hell is wrong with you people? "Handle the pain"? "Someone else was in a similar situation and handled it and so you can too"?I decided to count the number of responses that said stay and fight (after reading this and Kittie's post), and honestly, even though it's a close ratio, I still think more people are saying to get away from her and, if possible, move out. This is, of course, disregarding everything lollollol12, animefreak_usa and NeoStriker said (the first guy' a troll, the second is just... Freaky, and the third... no comment).
Yeah, thought I'd just point that out. :/
Also, its not easy(especially in today's economy) to just move out suddenly.If it was i would have moved out of my house years ago
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Black Jesus JC wrote...
Also, its not easy(especially in today's economy) to just move out suddenly.If it was i would have moved out of my house years ago
I never said it was easy, but that does not mean he should not try to do it. He may not be able to do it soon, but if he doesn't even try, then he won't get out at all. Just "handling the pain" and nothing else will not help him at all. Trying to do something on the other hand, will bring results sooner or later.
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Since Cinia Pacifica is an adult, I'm guessing he's in college? Best route would be to tough out the remaining college years. Someone mentioned that he's from a third-world country, so the only solution to his abuse would be that he will be placed in a foster home. If Cinia Pacifica were to report to the authorities he will be cutting all ties from his family most importantly financially. Usually any separation legally from your family would mean separation from the whole clan.
Third world countries do not work the same way as the US in which the child will be placed with a better family or family member, and reporting doesn't do any good. In third-world countries they only deal with thieves, killers, and rapists. If he can find some foreign christian foster home, they will be happy to provide for her financially. I do not know which country you are from Cinia, I'm just basing my facts off of Philippine child abuse procedures.
edit:he
Third world countries do not work the same way as the US in which the child will be placed with a better family or family member, and reporting doesn't do any good. In third-world countries they only deal with thieves, killers, and rapists. If he can find some foreign christian foster home, they will be happy to provide for her financially. I do not know which country you are from Cinia, I'm just basing my facts off of Philippine child abuse procedures.
edit:he
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Mickey D's wrote...
Since Cinia Pacifica is an adult, I'm guessing she's in college? Best route would be to tough out the remaining college years. Someone mentioned that she's from a third-world country, so the only solution to her abuse would be that she will placed in a foster home. If Cinia Pacifica were to report to the authorities she will be cutting all ties from her family most importantly financially. Third world countries do not work the same way as the US in which the child will be placed with a better family or family member. Usually any separation from your family would mean separation from the whole clan. If she can find some foreign christian foster home, they will be happy to provide for her financially.
I think Rice is a he.
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Immediately call the cops. I think that you have to put a restraining order on your mother. I came from a abusive family so I know what its like.
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Staying and fighting is not good at all, while the idea sounds appealing its not right. That person whatever her problem is must have some kind of mental issue which makes her behave like that.
My advise for you would be to get out of there as soon as possible, look for a job not close to your location but far away maybe in another town if the job offer is good. And if you are in college/university forget about it, your life is much more important than college you can enroll at a college after you move to your new place.
For convenient reasons I will assume that you are over the age of 18 since you are visiting this website, this would make you more than capable of looking after yourself so suck it up and move out from my point of view there is no other way and fear nothing you might not find the best of jobs and it might be hard in the beginning but it will sort its self out.
My advise for you would be to get out of there as soon as possible, look for a job not close to your location but far away maybe in another town if the job offer is good. And if you are in college/university forget about it, your life is much more important than college you can enroll at a college after you move to your new place.
For convenient reasons I will assume that you are over the age of 18 since you are visiting this website, this would make you more than capable of looking after yourself so suck it up and move out from my point of view there is no other way and fear nothing you might not find the best of jobs and it might be hard in the beginning but it will sort its self out.
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Waddup wrote...
Staying and fighting is not good at all, while the idea sounds appealing its not right. That person whatever her problem is must have some kind of mental issue which makes her behave like that. My advise for you would be to get out of there as soon as possible, look for a job not close to your location but far away maybe in another town if the job offer is good. And if you are in college/university forget about it, your life is much more important than college you can enroll at a college after you move to your new place.
For convenient reasons I will assume that you are over the age of 18 since you are visiting this website, this would make you more than capable of looking after yourself so suck it up and move out from my point of view there is no other way and fear nothing you might not find the best of jobs and it might be hard in the beginning but it will sort its self out.
Getting a job without a college degree is impossible in third-world countries. To work at McDonalds located in a third-world country you need a four year degree. A job at a call center requires at least two years of college.
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Mickey D's wrote...
Waddup wrote...
Staying and fighting is not good at all, while the idea sounds appealing its not right. That person whatever her problem is must have some kind of mental issue which makes her behave like that. My advise for you would be to get out of there as soon as possible, look for a job not close to your location but far away maybe in another town if the job offer is good. And if you are in college/university forget about it, your life is much more important than college you can enroll at a college after you move to your new place.
For convenient reasons I will assume that you are over the age of 18 since you are visiting this website, this would make you more than capable of looking after yourself so suck it up and move out from my point of view there is no other way and fear nothing you might not find the best of jobs and it might be hard in the beginning but it will sort its self out.
Getting a job without a college degree is impossible in third-world countries. To work at McDonalds located in a third-world country you need a four year degree. A job at a call center requires at least two years of college.
Sorry for the language but you are in some really deep shit. Try getting help for your mother, contact any other relative that might be able to help you or in the worst case scenario lock your self up in you room and only get out to piss and get food from the fridge.
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It's stories like these that make me wish I was from a wealthy family that owns hotels.
I would let all my wayward bros stay as long as necessary ; n ;
Seriously though, there has to be SOMEWHERE Rise can go..
I would let all my wayward bros stay as long as necessary ; n ;
Seriously though, there has to be SOMEWHERE Rise can go..
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artcellrox
The Grey Knight :y
Lollikittie wrote...
It's stories like these that make me wish I was from a wealthy family that owns hotels.I would let all my wayward bros stay as long as necessary ; n ;
Seriously though, there has to be SOMEWHERE Rise can go..
... I was actually going to suggest escaping to Dhaka (the capital; Rise lives in the south-eastern division of Chittagong), and... taking up a job in my dad's office, though not a real architectural one. I mean, more like menial tasks. Sure, he hates Dhaka, and he'd have to serve, but the place isn't too bad, and my dad is no slave-driver. He's fair, trust me.
His choice, of course. This is just a suggestion.
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artcellrox
The Grey Knight :y
Lollikittie wrote...
artcellrox wrote...
Noirit to the rescue.
Do it.
Again, HIS CHOICE! Also, my parents know NOTHING of this site and its people, so I can't just tell him I know him from some porn site. He needs to escape here on his own, and apply as a servant here on his own accord. We'd also have to pretend not to know each other when around other people.
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artcellrox wrote...
blah blah downside blah blah porn site
All of those pale in comparison to what he has to deal with now.
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artcellrox
The Grey Knight :y
Lollikittie wrote...
artcellrox wrote...
blah blah downside blah blah porn site
All of those pale in comparison to what he has to deal with now.
In any case, he's most welcome to try here, but I can't really refer to him. Your "paling in comparison" downside, by the way, is that if I mention how I know him, his chances of getting here not only nosedive, but my own life will become shit as well (not all Bangladeshi parents are as abusive as his, but most are at least a fair level of strict and conservative; my parents are an example of that).
