Why is it hard...to talk to a girl?

Uzumaki101 · 2009-08-08T17:15:50+00:00

Why? Why is it hard to talk to a girl? I am keeping this topic as a journey on my way to manhood (being 18 doesn't mean you're a full fledge man) So I have this classmate of mine. She's pretty and i've been trying to talk to her, but I usually end up with nothing to talk about X_X. I got her number (don't ask how) and I can chat with her when not facing her. Although the chat is awkward too, since I chat with her to only 5-15 messages max, then she doesn't reply back. I'm trying to be comfortable with our surroundings, but I found out that she *might* have a boyfriend. Another classmate of mine is trying to hit on her (I think), and he's advanced farther than I have. So tell me, how can you talk to a girl normally? If I could, I could be more friendly with her rather than being awkward classmates who chat once in a while

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14 years ago

I have no problems generally talking with girls, but when it comes to the ones i really like and want to get know better (getting there phone number or hang out with for example). I begin to overthink things and it seriously pisses me off to no friggin' end.

zunar

14 years ago

RukaMilda wrote...

Well I gotta be honest about this so here's my story:

Spoiler:

I never really had trouble talking to girls but I have a strong phobia of getting into a relationship. No its not because I'm afraid of being heartbroken but It was during high school when I was 15. I befriended a girl in one of my extra classes( which was only to last for a couple of weeks)who had a crush on one of my friends who was bad with women.Obviously I did my best to get them together hoping that it would make my friend umm...less gloomy. There I kept on telling her his good sides and sometimes his bad sides(in a good way of course).

Right when things were going well. That girl caught me off guard and suddenly confessed to me and that she liked how supportive,naive and happy go lucky I was and that she wanted me to come with her to our prom before going to her class. I tried to laugh it off but the shock and trauma was just unexplainable that I was unable to sleep that night I mean I never had any feelings for her and they were the one that who were supposed to end up together not us. After that my body just froze whenever I see her and that I cannot help but hide. I was unable to take her to the prom as I was supposed to and just hid somewhere feeling like an ass.

And from that time I never had the guts to face or talk to her again. Yeah I was one hell of a jerk back then, although I wish I had just nicely turned her down instead. And now because of that experience I developed a phobia for falling in love(with real girls, anime is just fine) which is a real pain considering that quite a lot of girls end up crushing on me (2 during elementary,3 on high school, even more in college who are attracted to my eccentric personality). Heck even my cousin who is the same age as me and has had 4 girlfriends keep on asking why I avoid getting into a relationship. Not having someone kinda makes me feel alone and lonely(My little brothers and sister drive me crazy while my parents just treat me like a tool to give them a better life and never really felt any love from them) considering that all my current friends have girlfriends sigh..

Wow, that story was chilling. I am kind'a afraid of getting into relationship too. I really don't know why, maybe because my expreince with women (ones I liked) wasn't so nice. But you have to think differently - there is nothing wrong with relationships. We are social creatures and we are meant to get along with the other sex. Nature is with us I guess.

HermitInTheMist

14 years ago

I only really have a problem talking to a girl when there is a group, unless it's a really good friend of mine, than I can talk to her whenever

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