Would you still date someone you wern't sexual attracted to?

I have a question, I know that it should be obvious but hear me out.

I've been dating my boyfriend for almost two years now, we're currently renting the basement of his parents because it's a lot more cheaper and since his best friend and his sister just moved out this year the house is kinda big and empty. Well, before him I've always had very sexual active relationships till he came around. We have a very comfortable relationship, we share all the same interests and he'll hear me bitch out till his ears bleed without a complaint. And we have it good together, we have fun:
But there's no passion. And I am not sexual attracted towards him.

We have sex, and the sex is good. But it's kind of like he doesn't make me scream.

It feels like we skipped the hole new lovers passion stage and jumped right into behaving like we had been married for 20 years. I know he blames it on the fact we have very little privacy living here.. but you know.. I just want to ask 3 questions.

Would you consider dating someone you weren't sexual attracted towards?

And I know that we say when one is in love, lust comes on the package but do you consider that to really be true?

Would you try to create passion in the relationship or simply accept what is?

It shouldn't be about sex - But what the fuck do I know, I'm a virgin. Either way, leaving someone over sexual attraction is, in my opinion, extremely shallow of a person.

To answer the question - Yes, I would. I have before. Love is love, lust is lust. If you really have that big of an issue, you shouldn't lead the person on.

I all ready have. I was with my ex-boyfriend for six years and I was so in love with him I refused to admit I wasn't attracted to him. Then I met my boyfriend I'm with now--and completely attracted/infatuated with him. It's really not to anyone's advantage to date someone you aren't attracted too. I'm much happier now because I'm completely attracted to my boyfriend now--I did love my ex and he was a good guy (we broke up for other reasons then attraction) but it wasn't right to keep being with him because he could find someone else who found him attractive.

If it is just a date, maybe I'll do it.
But I can't have sex with someone I didn't love to.
So, when you said you had sex with him and it was very good, then I think deep in your heart you're in love with him, but you just don't realize it yet...
That's my opinion... ^_^

Well I do love him, I just don't look at him and think he's sexual attractive. nor do I sense any passion in our relationship. But I do love him, he done a lot for me and no matter how bad things got he stuck by me.

Have you tried talking to him about it?

O yeah. He's a bit weird for a human being. He's as romantic as a stick, he can't think else then what he sees, and choosing the simplest thing is like choosing which finger he wants to cut off. Send him to the store to buy chocolate with the order "suprise me" and he can spend an hour looking at the different chocolate and come back with like 5 different ones xD

It's fun at times because I can decide everything, but some times it gets tiring. But when I say stuff like this, or how I'd wish he'd atleast try to do stuff like give me flowers on our anniversary or even say I look nice when I dress up cuz we're going to go out he just ends up blaming himself to death

I think you'll find your passion soon.
For me, your boyfriend is unique and you should be happy with your boyfriend.
^_^

I am, I just wanted different opinions because a lot of my friends always bugg me about it saying I should leave him ^^"

No. You shouldn't.
Keep a good relationship with boyfriend.
Don't get provocated by your friends. Maybe they're jealous to you... ^_^

Would you consider dating someone you weren't sexual attracted towards?
..no,alot of my girl friends(friends that are girls)hate when i say that,but hear me out.there's enough time to be with someone your not attracted to once your 20 years into a marriage(or so the jokes say).and maybe sex is too important to me,but i'm still sorta young and have a libido that comes with it,so why let it go to waste

...besides isnt that what a friend is:someone you enjoy being around but with really no sexual want(except out of convenience when needed)

And I know that we say when one is in love, lust comes on the package but do you consider that to really be true?
..here i contradict myself in saying,not always

Would you try to create passion in the relationship or simply accept what is?
try to create it,but if that didnt work and my sexual frustration grew to loud to ignore;i would start looking for an out



and to comment on your relationship,and yes i dont have all the facts but reminds me of more of a companionship and dont doubt that you love him very much.but they way you speak of it/him,leads me to ask you to ask yourself this,what exact kind of love

ugh, your such a stalker >.>"

And what if you HAD sex and you came during sex but didn't find her sexual attractive but not ugly either - would it still be a strict no?

it was never a strict no,i have given it a try and may again

and yes,i came with the last girl and still broke up with her.are you saying anyone who can find your g-spot you'll be with forever??

anyone with alittle knowledge of the female body and technique can make a girl come.so cumming or not, as little to do with it

No eric that is not what I'm trying to say what I'm trying to say is to butt out of my topic about my boyfriend and that sex shouldn't be the most important thing in a real relationship

well of course it shouldnt be,just saying it is a factor in relationships.and was merely answering the questions as they pertained to myself

..but ok,out~

This kind of question is always dependent on who you're asking. The biggest issue really is, if you don't have passion in your relationship, will either of you seek it out eventually elsewhere? Both should be honest with themselves when thinking that over. If the answer to that question is yes, then you should break up because it means that passion is more important than the loyalty felt towards the other person. No relationship can survive without that. If the answer to the question is no, though, by all means stay together. If the feelings you have are lasting, why wreck it? As they say, when you're in your eighties all you're going to have left is your conversation and company. If you listen to one another and get along really well, stay together.

PERSONALLY speaking... I wouldn't date someone I wasn't sexually attracted to, no. To me the physical aspects of a relationship are important. I'd want to share as many facets of life with a person I was with as possible, including passionate lovemaking. I'm an all-or-nothing kind of guy, but that's just my own ideal. It's not right or wrong, it's just how I am.

I would and yes while I won't lie I would enjoy hitting the sheets from time to time(average guy reply)a relationship isn't always about sex,the feeling of being with that special person making them happy and being there for them is a wonderful and if its meant to be that relationship should be able to withstand any ordeal with or without sex,that's how I feel anyway.

Already have dated someone I wasn't sexually attracted to, for like 3 days it was okay, but it wasn't the looks that killed it, more about trust and all that other BS.

Nope... it sound jaded but i can't be with someone if i not attracted to. It's basic evolution and biological sense to be with a person your sexually attracted to.

The people you're not sexually attracted to but still hang out with are called friends.

They're friends and not fuck buddies for a reason.