Would you still date someone you wern't sexual attracted to?

Personally, I need to be sexually attracted to my partner. I love sex too much, so it's one of my standards. This isn't to say that "it's only about sex", because it's not, so please don't assume that's what I mean. It's great to have enthralling conversations and to be able to play video games with a guy, but if he's awful in bed or doesn't get me going, I know that I probably don't want to put up with it. Why? Because I am blunt about these things, and I have experienced enough to know that guys tend to have egos that are easily bruised. If this makes me shallow, oh well; I'm not about to apologize for knowing how my body works and what my body wants.

Again, this isn't saying that I don't take personality and other things into account. I just think this aspect is equally important.

I think all these people saying that "personality is most important" haven't really been in a long-term, committed relationship. Sure, personality IS the most important thing in a partner, but that doesn't overshadow or completely dominate other things that people need - and yes, passion and sexual attractiveness ARE important things. Sometimes passion dies away, and that's OK as long as the two are willing to talk openly about what they can do to relight their passion for one another... but it sounds like the original poster has NEVER felt these things for her boyfriend, and that isn't a little problem. It's a BIG one, especially since you've spent two years with this guy! Why did you even initiate a relationship with him if you didn't feel those essential things for him - most people only try at a relationship since they feel attracted to the other person, and hope that through a few dates or what have you that attractiveness will blossom into something more substantial (a love for their personalities, etc) that will give the relationship a foundation.

For me, I wasn't initially "oh god, he's sexy" when I met my boyfriend, but in a few weeks as I got to know him better I was overwhelmed by an appreciation for him as a person... and now I think he's amazingly attractive in all ways! It can work either way - being attracted first, establishing your attraction to one another second, but if it isn't there what is the point? If I hadn't felt those things, I don't believe I would have continued a romantic relationship, because sex, passion, and being attracted to my partner are important to me. Otherwise, it wouldn't really feel like a genuine relationship to me. Sure, you can have great conversations with someone, tons of mutual hobbies and interests, and that person can be wonderful in every way (loyal, supportive, what have you)... but it would just be a friendship, not a romantic relationship. When you truly love someone (six months to a year, after the honeymoon phase is over), and you know every side to them - not just their good, their better, and their best, but their bad, worse, and horrifically ugly sides - and you have helped each other, supported each other, and continue to communicate with them, share your daily lives with one another, have fun and laugh together... it is wonderful to also take all of that to the bedroom, and express that love physically. Intimacy is actually the fuel that moves the process, and keeps two people close in all ways. I think it is vital... and so, no, I couldn't go without it.

well ill say it..as a guy i find her inner beauty to be a HUGE turn on for me. this goes way against society but whatever im a pretty big anarchist at heart! i like fat chicks. luv luv luv em!!! and why???? they realize that most of them cant work on the outside too much so they work on the inside as much as possible. speaking from experience here.. this one girl i dated she was a short pudgy little thing <3 and yes i say what sounds like a dis in full love...she wasnt too attractive but man could she tell a good joke and make me laugh! not to mention she always shared her food with me, complimented me. well all around just lifted me up :). i always came buckets with her. every time we'd have sex at first id be turned off admitedly but as i thought of all the nice things she's done for me and how good she treated me my libido sky rocketed! ill say it like this. a relationship sometimes is like a pile of tinder soaked in gasoline. its just waiting for that spark to float by to set a-flame in passion.

I may convince myself that I'd give it a try but chances are I'll want that person to be sexually attractive.😱