Would you still date someone you wern't sexual attracted to?

I would if she was a nive person and if i enjoyed being with her and if she wasnt that ugly.

Sounds like you're talking about a great friend or companion, not a lover.

It's pretty vital that you are at least somewhat attracted to him; it's what makes the difference between lovers and friends. I've known people to marry someone because they felt safe with them, but both of them eventually cheated since there was no passion or chemistry. But again, you could be different.

You're really not attracted to any part of him? Is he overweight and that's not what you're attracted to or are you honestly not attracted to him?

I would absolutely never date someone I wasn't sexually attracted to on some level, under any circumstances. If I had serious romantic feelings for someone but no sexual ones I would work to develop them, since relationships boil down to a lot more than just sex, but it is important. If I couldn't find myself attracted to them sexually I would stop the relationship from going any further and remain friends.

I know sex isn't that important to everyone, but it's really important to me. I don't think I could stay in a relationship very long with there being some kind of sexual attraction.

love isn't about sex thats y sex is also known as lust. i would love somebody who i wasn't sexually attracted to personally if they make me feel happy or if she (for me) would make the day better i would love her for that.
from the second question you asked it can but if u think that don't forget some presents will be either a surprise or you're waiting for it to come like xmas, though all i can say to that is i would kinda consider it to b true.
i would create passion to show my lover that i love them but on an even level so they know not only am i in love with them but i want to get "hot" with them.

Nope, I wouldn't.

Depends on what you started dating for in the first place.

The greater number of relationships are spawned from sexual attraction, which is why first loves rarely last, and the 70+ percent divorce rate; people are too short-sighted when entering a relationship, and when the sex starts to dwindle down- they discover that their relationship had little other substance to hold it together.

However, there are the rare cases in which- during the relationship- the couple begin to truly love one another, and thus they stay together.

Personally, I don't think any relationship before the age of 30 or so has a great chance of lasting. Puberty until 30 are our fuckbunny years. One shouldn't commit when the body clearly doesn't want to.

tried it; didn't work out.

Was ashamed to be seen in public with her and she wasn't even that bad, I would give her a 6 but she was just a bit too big for me.

for one thing i sorta feel like a stalker lol i read every single comment prior to this one.i would date someone i wasn't attracted to sexually because at times just simple male companionship is just enough for me. at times i just want passion involved,vice versa.

i can say for another thing that i feel like i have a relationship similar to this.But then again no because my boyfriend is the one with all the passion and testosterone that drive our sex life rather than me which turns out okay.

I think if you can meet with each other on compatibility than everything should be fine.perhaps he doesn't quite see your concerns and should talk it through together and works things out as a couple,that's the best advice i can give.

Well no, and I don't believe anybody else would either. Attraction is a major factor in who we like, if we find them ugly as all hell chances are things are going to fall apart, a person can have the kindest personality in the world but if they repulse you in the looks department then no can do.

It's not shallow it's just how we are, besides it's not like there's only one definition of what's attractive, it's different for all of us so it all works out :3

I chose the 2nd option, "no."

I chose this for one very good reason only, and that is: There need's to be a fire before there can be embers.

If you aren't sexually attracted to him, then your relationship probably wont last. Naturally, you may get bored with the relationship if you don't lust after your boyfriend. There has to passion when the two of you are together, one needs to need their partner.

What you have sounds like a wonderful basis for a great friendship, which is a great thing to share with someone. As for a relationship, however, I just cant show confidence that it will last.

This thread reminded me of Sterberg's Triangular Theory of love:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triangular_theory_of_love

I think it's an interesting concept, although it may not explain all the aspects of what love is.

I use to just date guys I was attracted to intelligently but the thing was they weren't the best looking guys. (I am a complete nerd/ martial arts geek/ anime and manga geek and nerd, so not a lot of guys where I'm from liked that.) When that didn't work out, I dated a guy who I was just physically attracted to and that didn't work out either. Then I met the love of my life and he has both. So I feel you should go with someone who you feel is a good balance. because if your just sexually attracted to him that could just mean lust and no love and you are probably not going to have anything to talk. If you just have the same interests and have things in common that's not going to full the other feelings of sex and what not. It seems to me that you feel that your not quite ready to feel like your married and I think that's why your worried. You should just go over all the reasons you like or love the guy and just ask your self do you want a future with this guy.

I voted for no, but come to think about it I asked my current girl friend out without being sexually attracted to her. She was so innocent at the time I didn't think that I'd even get to kiss her within the first month. But I was attracted to her (even if it wasn't sexual) and that is a must.

Don't think I could, the full love wouldn't be there.
Attraction between two people is part of the whole thing.

Personality. Its better if its a person you can appeciate. Sex is nice but it doesn't and shouldn't revolve the relationship

If I wanted to date someone I'm not sexually attracted to I might as well date my fucking mother I mean not only does she love me unconditionally ,but she could totally provide for me in the financial department..he'll she even has some of my interest...does anybody see where I'm going with this ? Yeah sexual attraction isn't the main thing to look for..but it is something

Fuck that. It's all about sex.

Love someone for their flaws, not their perfections. That's how I look at all of my relationships and I can say for a fact I'm still good friends with all of my ex-girlfriends because of it. As lovers it's both of your responsibilities to work together and help each other become better people. Is there something you could be doing to spice up your sex life? Your boyfriend sounds like he may bit a bit frigid, but there's always a way you can break past those barriers and try something new.

Remember, it's not always about him, what could you be doing to help him become more sexually attractive and vice versa? Guaranteed that if he starts seeing you make an effort to make yourself look better, he will also try to improve himself. Give him a nudge in the right direction, imply it through a conversation you have.

As an idea, for Christmas, buy him weights and then maybe some exercise equipment for yourself as well. You both have to make an effort in the relationship to improve yourselves for the other person.

Yes, absolutely would I date someone whom I find spiritually compatible. Just look at my username: It's 'platonic'.

Of course, it would be nice for her to have physical attractiveness, as well.

Let's face it. Males are very visual animals. Females are somewhat auditory animals. According to neuron science, every few seconds the image of "sex" flash past a male's brain. We just can't help it to pick the more visually attractive gril to us, though our judgement on attractiveness can very well change from time to time.
Females on the other hand, I think, prefer more according to the males' voice then appearance.