Virgin Complexes?

Symbolism, if that was directed at me.

The blood and pain turns me off, but sexual experience instils a fear of being judged. Wouldn't want my dearly beloved to turn out to be fickle.

All irrelevant though, really. Doesn't affect how I feel, just adds some theoretical worries to the heap.

Wow! So many replies, and lots of really interesting discussions going on here too. It's suprizing how no one else has specified that they feel the same way as I yet, I thought there would be at least a couple people on this community here who are like me.



Actually, I find it interesting that you say that because that so the opposite! My parents are still together, never fight (they argue, but that's a given isn't it?), but they are not physically close at all (and if they are they are perfect at hiding and lying about it). They don't really touch (hold hands/hug), maybe every 3 years I see that kind of contact, and the first time I had seen them kiss was on their wedding video 2 years ago (and even then my mom was embarrassed). They do sleep in the same bed, but I highly doubt they ever have sex. My bedroom is extremely close to theirs and the walls are really thin too. >3>;

Also, I find it interesting how that everyone says that I just need to get rid of my virginity ASAP to be able to be cured soon. I'm fine with having this complex for now, I realize that it will go away eventually, and I'm a bit curious as to why everyone thinks I should get it cured. XD

.... you talk so much @_@



Your words, correct? Because you said this i got the idea that you are somehow bothered by it, and also it's not very healthy to have extremes in your personality- that just complicates your life. This is why you should overcome this complex, although i highly doubt that that's what it is. I'm not saying you should get laid right now, but maybe change your outlook on sex and relationships a little bit. You sound like you are very naive when it comes to certain matters (that instance with your friend) You need to get your knuckles bruised (figuratively speaking), if you know what i mean...

...the word cure makes it sound like there is something wrong with you, and there isn't, so don't use it

is it because you feel less experience or something? Where I live... its like slut city. Im one of the few who still hasent lost theyre virginity. Im proud of it. I wouldnt want to have meaningless sex just for the heck of it. My prioritys arent that shallow. Sex should mean something y'know.

I care much more about their personality rather than their virginity.

You guys overrate sex.

Sex is like, the act of procriation, with a bit of pleasure to spice it up, and also a good activity for releasing stress, and that's it.
Not some kind of divine conection with another human being or i don't know what...

You're afraid to have sex? Not ready yet? Take your time. But really, why make such a fuss of it?

I'm not saying this because i want to be a dick, it's just that i was kinda like that before having sex, and it's kinda frustrating when you put your expectatives so high and discovers that sex is just... sex.

That could be another reason. Your parents never showed much affection openly, so you just never had much exposure to what could be going on. All the touchy feely stuff is awesome, and I don't get why anybody would hide it at all. I know you have to hide it to a certain extent, but showing your kids that you have affection for your partner is a big deal in my opinion. The kids need to know that the parents love each other, and besides just getting along, what better way than to hold hands and peck sometimes?

As for your virginity, that's a personal decision. I'm still a virgin, but I'm open to losing it to someone I care about deeply. I'm definitely not going to wait until marriage, because I feel sex is an important part of a developing relationship once you've gotten that far.

Back on to the topic a little better, I suppose. This complex is really weird to me, to be quite honest. To me, it's more about who the person is now than what they've done in the past. I'm not going to hate someone for something they did before I met them; unless what they did is horrific, like commit genocide or rape ten thousand babies.

I forgot what else I was going to say, I'll come back to it when I remember.

well that might be true. Sadly that's not what I mean when I say I want sex to be meaningful. If you don't understand what I mean, there's no way for me to explain.

Now High is also right personality counts too.

Though aren't we just talking about preference? There is no way for me to describe exactly what I'm looking for. The fact is that I don't know what I'm looking for.

well where I live... its almost impossible to find a virgin, unless shes still in in elementary

yes that's what I'm trying to say. If your body is all you have, if your only interest is pleasure. maybe our relationship isn't worth it. I mean if you have such little respect for yourself why would you respect our relationship? I mean if you have sex you tend to have it a lot. They do have sex addicts out there.

There are more virgin girls then you guys think. Don't assume that just because someone is flirty or because the girls you know aren't virgins, that there aren't (a lot) of girls who aren't comfortable with having sex with someone they only known for a little while. I have two close friends that are still virgins and I'd say they are both pretty hot and in their early twenties - they haven't found the right guy yet.

What do you plan on doing once you're in a relationship?

You say you don't have any experience in a relationship, and don't want to date somebody who isn't a virgin and has to be an otaku (shouldn't be too hard to find one of those), but you also look down on people who aren't virgins.

So are you going to look down on yourself when you lose your virginity, or what?

I mean where I live. Since Im not going to be dating anyway it doesnt really matter. What Im saying is that people around here arent virigns. They dont think about it as something meaningful. I mean round here. Im sure not all girls lose virginity when they are young. Im saying as far as i know/ as far as ive seen, and around here

I was thinking about this too. I guess the only thing is if a person has the mindset of "I'm waiting for marriage" (which is cool) then they can be more picky and want someone who is also going to be... experiencing their first time as well. If they aren't planning on that, then they are just being possessive. It like they are saying, "I can't believe someone else got their hands on you before I did. You are ruined because someone else dirtied you before I got a chance to go first."

If they are just wanting to have their first time be with someone else who is experiencing their first time as well, I don't think there is anything wrong with that - no matter how hard a thing it is to accomplish. But I think there is some underlying reason for this that deals with fidelity and life long monogomy.

I can't believe i actually read through 7 pages of this crap...

WHO gives a rat's ass!

Honestly!

Who?

If you want to have a lot of sex, learn the skills required, practice constantly and you will be good at it and get all the sex you want.(become a pickup artist is what I'm saying)


If you don't want to have sex then don't! It's that easy!


If you are waiting around for that 1 perfect somebody that will whisk you away to a magical place where dreams come true and BLAH BLAH BLAH then you are just self-diluted and should be pitied. Don't fall for the stories in the animes and the doujins! Don't fall victim to any media! Find your own truth in everything including sex.

The first time is just that! The first time of many, no more special than the 50th time or the 150th time!

Reading through some of these posts made me cringe because of their repugnant and diluted nature.(the post below is not an example)




I think you are looking for something that doesn't exist!!!!!

That factor you are talking about, sure sounds a lot like innocence and i hate it when people mention something as stupid and fictional as that...

Does practice really help for the big day? If so what practice should I engage in? Should I just watch some videos? Good thing im male I can lie about my virginity.