Virgin Complexes?

e-imi · 2010-04-10T08:45:19+00:00

So I personally have a huge virgin complex. I have never had a boyfriend or anything before, but I could never date a guy if I found out he wasn't a virgin. It has nothing to do that I'd be threatened by him or anything, It'd just be weird (maybe it also has to do that if I was to date a guy he'd have to be an otaku?). When I think of my friends/people I know losing their virginity (or even making out) I get really panicked too. Recently one of my really close best friends (I'd known her since grade 1) moved to another high school this year, and I was really worried about her because she has been home schooled for around 3 years. She was super shy, scared of groups, and had no guy friends asides from the guys she played MMOs with. Soon, she more or less stopped talking to me even when I started conversations with her, and suddenly started dating a guy. However, when I found out that she was in a relationship suddenly (and from other friends), I also heard that she'd make out with him in the hallways of the school and that she had lost her virginity to him. This was all in a 2 month period of her going to that school, and it upsets me so much I've had nightmares about it. Nightmares. o__o;; I've had my complex for a lot longer than before that whole thing, but I think that has had a major impact on it. Does anyone else here have a virgin complex? How do you think it started? Any other experiences? I mean, it's so weird because I'm pretty much graduating now and I sound like a little kid. >3>;;

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Evnyofdeath

15 years ago

Ziggy wrote...

Evnyofdeath wrote...

Nomad wrote...

Evnyofdeath wrote...

Eh I don't really think there is such a thing as a Virgin Complexe, I think its just paranoia.

However dating a guy for 2 months and already losing your virginity?

I can only think of two scenerios

1. The two were 100% perfect for eachother (unlikely_

2. He threated her (leaving, telling a secret, ect.) if she didn't have sex with him, and now shes to scared to leave him.

Are those really the only 2 scenarios you could think of?

Here, let me add some more;

3) They don't really care about sex
4) The girl wanted to have sex just as much as the guy did because her fingers just weren't cutting it anymore...
5) She is actually a pervert on her way to conquest 100 men into sex friends...

True, but I was trying not to insult the person who made the thread by calling her friend a slut

I love double standards.

It's okay for a guy to go out and jump into bed with a girl whenever he wants, because then he's just a man, but if a girl does it, then she's just a slut.

So we're sitting here saying if you have sex within the first two months you're a slut? Well, I guess I'm a slut then :) Fpod and I had sex our first night together, we met when I came down to Georgia for a campus tour of the college I wanted to attend to, and he took me around the city since he lived around there. The University provided me a condo for free since I was coming from out of state, and the night just sort of led that way.

Anybody who is putting a clock to a person on how long they waited until they had sex with a partner, needs to find somebody to screw themselves. Stop being a busy body in other peoples sex lives.

It's all about how comfortable with the person you are, how comfortable you are with your body, and your values on sex. Nobody said sex has to be romantic and full of sweet kisses.

-bashes head against wall-

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I get what your saying......

Its just that stuff like that is forced into your head in America from day one, so that was my automatic response...........

x-gen

15 years ago

Renovartio wrote...

LostQuartet wrote...

GracefulDiscension. wrote...

SLAYER NEXUS wrote...

x-gen wrote...

As far as I'm concerned, if the chick I'm dating/fucking is a virgin, it's just the cherry at the top of the sundae.

Well put.

Why do I have the feeling that statement objectifies woman?

Because he said we, females, are like sundaes.

Then again, guys having lots of experience is just an extra banana in my banana split. So, I guess it works both ways.

shouldnt it be extra cream or nots not banana on banana -w-

Kk... I don't want people to misunderstand me here. I was partially joking as I said it. I didn't mean that women are objects or anything to be used. I was refering to a cherry on top of a sundae as a metaphor for virginity being just a nice bonus. It's not necessary, but sometimes nice... for guys anyways.

neko-chan

15 years ago

I thought you said "cherry" on top because you know... popping cherries and all that. You may of have had a clever use of play on words without noticing it.

x-gen

15 years ago

No, that was intentional... I also meant that the sundae is the real good part I want, but having a cherry on top is nice too.

AbunaiOniichan

15 years ago

Ziggy wrote...

I've been wondering, is there a male equivalent for "slut"?

Also, I can't stand the whole time thing, even for things other than sex. In my case, age versus maturity is the one that really bugs me. Though even if I didn't have that issue in my relationship I still wouldn't be having sex for a while.

Nashrakh Little White Butterflies Staff

15 years ago

AbunaiOniichan wrote...

I've been wondering, is there a male equivalent for "slut"?

...Guido?

Roofie

15 years ago

Nashrakh wrote...

AbunaiOniichan wrote...

I've been wondering, is there a male equivalent for "slut"?

...Guido?

No, that is just the bane of humanity, applying to both genders.

Teclo

15 years ago

In after Ziggy talking about her sex life again.

While I don't think it's fair to see women as sluts for doing the same thing that would make a man a player, it does have grounding in SCIENCE.

Men have "infinite" sperm getting produced all the time, and are designed to fuck everything that moves and fill it up with cum. Women are born with all the eggs they'll ever have and are designed to carefully select a mate before committing to popping out a little clone for him (while he goes off and fills all her friends up with cum).

That no long matters in the modern world, though. Sex no longer = babby (inb4 "safe days"). Now babby is formed in a multitude of other ways too, so biological imperatives are, oddly, no longer particularly linked to sex itself.

Anyway, I only came into this thread because I thought by "virgin complexes" it referred to how many men have a thing for virgins. I was wrong.

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