Virgin Complexes?

I don't think there's anything wrong with waiting, but to judge a person and tell them they're not worthy just because they've had sexual relations in the past seems pretty snotty to me imo. People aren't items, their value doesn't go down if they've had a relationship before and have gotten intimate with that person.

The problem with the thread starter is that she's never even been in a relationship before. I remember I used to think I'd wait until I was much older to be sexually active, but after you're close to that person you really like, and you're attracted to that person your hormones make it much harder for you than you'd like.

If someone told me that, or claimed I wasn't worthy to them because I've had sexual relations in the past, I'd tell them to get off their soap box and good riddance.



I absolutely don't believe that. Sex is way different after you're experienced. There is no way you can compare sex from when you're inexperienced and not familiar with what your body really wants.

Sex isn't something with 'a little bit of pleasure' and if that's all it's ever been for you, then you've had shitty partners.

Sex can be anywhere from not satisfying to all the way up where you're drooling because it feels so god damn good, so that's absolute bullshit.

I think you misunderstood, i was saying that if you want sex, you would have to improve your confidence with women in general by practicing the skills necessary which usually have nothing to do with sex and more to do with self-esteem and confidence.

And by considering losing your virginity as a memorable event; you have put weight on the event and thereby you are putting an unfair pressure on your significant other which is often why sex sucks the first time.

Virgninity. No thank you. I will keep them forever. For anything i am still Virgin.

What? Please use punctuation properly.

What? If you don't mind me asking, why is that?

Don't get me wrong Ziggy, i'm not saying sex isn't THAT good, because it is. Specially with a good partner, and even more with a partner you love.

My point is that it's futile to make such a big deal of losing your virginity, specially because the first few (or more) times you have sex, it won't be as good as, like you said, when you (and partner) are already experienced and know what you want and what you like.

What i'm trying to say is: go out, have a lot of sex, you're just wasting time. Virginity is not as important as some people paint it.

But that is just me, i'm not saying you shouldn't wait/look for "the right person" or whatever. All i'm saying is that i didn't, and never regreted it.
I found my significant one way after having sex for the first time, and (because of the circumstances of how we met) i would never have the chance to meet her if i was still a virgin.

Well put.

Why do I have the feeling that statement objectifies woman?

Because he said we, females, are like sundaes.

Then again, guys having lots of experience is just an extra banana in my banana split. So, I guess it works both ways.

shouldnt it be extra cream or nots not banana on banana -w-

Are those really the only 2 scenarios you could think of?

Here, let me add some more;

3) They don't really care about sex
4) The girl wanted to have sex just as much as the guy did because her fingers just weren't cutting it anymore...
5) She is actually a pervert on her way to conquest 100 men into sex friends...

A slut? Listen here you chauvinist, at first i thought you were kidding, that's why i dignified my post with your quote.

This is the last post I'm gonna leave here because most of you seem to be completely self diluted so listen closely.

The amount of sex one has had is of absolutely no consequence. It doesn't matter! Not even a little bit!

A banana split sounds like a horrible injury that would occur during sex to the male appendage.



Uh no it doesn't... It means you hold feelings of superiority of your kind over others - like men over women.

BUT... I don't think you are a chauvinist :D



I agree, my only point was I don't think it is wrong for them to say they aren't interested because you've done the deed in the past IF they are playing by their own rules. If they aren't an ass about it, then I wouldn't hold it against them if they felt like they wanted a partner who was a virgin. BUT ONLY IF THEY WERE HOLDING THEMSELVES TO THEIR OWN LOFTY STANDARDS.

How can you say such things!? I can't get it out of my head now! Ugh...!

Virgin here too, but I feel like sex can be a method for extracting pleasure, or an intimate form of love. However, I think in any case I would like a virgin more. We would both be new to this kind of thing... but I would be fine without sex. I guess what is more important is that you enjoy being with her, but personally I like it even more if the feelings are mutual.

I love double standards.

It's okay for a guy to go out and jump into bed with a girl whenever he wants, because then he's just a man, but if a girl does it, then she's just a slut.

So we're sitting here saying if you have sex within the first two months you're a slut? Well, I guess I'm a slut then :) Fpod and I had sex our first night together, we met when I came down to Georgia for a campus tour of the college I wanted to attend to, and he took me around the city since he lived around there. The University provided me a condo for free since I was coming from out of state, and the night just sort of led that way.

Anybody who is putting a clock to a person on how long they waited until they had sex with a partner, needs to find somebody to screw themselves. Stop being a busy body in other peoples sex lives.

It's all about how comfortable with the person you are, how comfortable you are with your body, and your values on sex. Nobody said sex has to be romantic and full of sweet kisses.