Virgin Complexes?
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Brittany
Director of Production
neko-chan wrote...
"I can't believe someone else got their hands on you before I did. You are ruined because someone else dirtied you before I got a chance to go first."If they are just wanting to have their first time be with someone else who is experiencing their first time as well, I don't think there is anything wrong with that - no matter how hard a thing it is to accomplish. But I think there is some underlying reason for this that deals with fidelity and life long monogomy.
I don't think there's anything wrong with waiting, but to judge a person and tell them they're not worthy just because they've had sexual relations in the past seems pretty snotty to me imo. People aren't items, their value doesn't go down if they've had a relationship before and have gotten intimate with that person.
The problem with the thread starter is that she's never even been in a relationship before. I remember I used to think I'd wait until I was much older to be sexually active, but after you're close to that person you really like, and you're attracted to that person your hormones make it much harder for you than you'd like.
If someone told me that, or claimed I wasn't worthy to them because I've had sexual relations in the past, I'd tell them to get off their soap box and good riddance.
Aya-senpai wrote...
You guys overrate sex.Sex is like, the act of procriation, with a bit of pleasure to spice it up, and also a good activity for releasing stress, and that's it.
Not some kind of divine conection with another human being or i don't know what...
You're afraid to have sex? Not ready yet? Take your time. But really, why make such a fuss of it?
I'm not saying this because i want to be a dick, it's just that i was kinda like that before having sex, and it's kinda frustrating when you put your expectations so high and discovers that sex is just... sex.
I absolutely don't believe that. Sex is way different after you're experienced. There is no way you can compare sex from when you're inexperienced and not familiar with what your body really wants.
Sex isn't something with 'a little bit of pleasure' and if that's all it's ever been for you, then you've had shitty partners.
Sex can be anywhere from not satisfying to all the way up where you're drooling because it feels so god damn good, so that's absolute bullshit.
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otakumax wrote...
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Does practice really help for the big day? If so what practice should I engage in? Should I just watch some videos? Good thing im male I can lie about my virginity.
I think you misunderstood, i was saying that if you want sex, you would have to improve your confidence with women in general by practicing the skills necessary which usually have nothing to do with sex and more to do with self-esteem and confidence.
And by considering losing your virginity as a memorable event; you have put weight on the event and thereby you are putting an unfair pressure on your significant other which is often why sex sucks the first time.
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Arbitor wrote...
Virgninity. No thank you. I will keep them forever. For anything i am still Virgin.What? Please use punctuation properly.
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Arbitor wrote...
Virgninity. No thank you. I will keep them forever. For anything i am still Virgin.What? If you don't mind me asking, why is that?
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Ziggy wrote...
Aya-senpai wrote...
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I absolutely don't believe that. Sex is way different after you're experienced. There is no way you can compare sex from when you're inexperienced and not familiar with what your body really wants.
Sex isn't something with 'a little bit of pleasure' and if that's all it's ever been for you, then you've had shitty partners.
Sex can be anywhere from not satisfying to all the way up where you're drooling because it feels so god damn good, so that's absolute bullshit.
Don't get me wrong Ziggy, i'm not saying sex isn't THAT good, because it is. Specially with a good partner, and even more with a partner you love.
My point is that it's futile to make such a big deal of losing your virginity, specially because the first few (or more) times you have sex, it won't be as good as, like you said, when you (and partner) are already experienced and know what you want and what you like.
What i'm trying to say is: go out, have a lot of sex, you're just wasting time. Virginity is not as important as some people paint it.
But that is just me, i'm not saying you shouldn't wait/look for "the right person" or whatever. All i'm saying is that i didn't, and never regreted it.
I found my significant one way after having sex for the first time, and (because of the circumstances of how we met) i would never have the chance to meet her if i was still a virgin.
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As far as I'm concerned, if the chick I'm dating/fucking is a virgin, it's just the cherry at the top of the sundae.
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NEXUS
Since 2010
x-gen wrote...
As far as I'm concerned, if the chick I'm dating/fucking is a virgin, it's just the cherry at the top of the sundae.Well put.
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SLAYER NEXUS wrote...
x-gen wrote...
As far as I'm concerned, if the chick I'm dating/fucking is a virgin, it's just the cherry at the top of the sundae.Well put.
Why do I have the feeling that statement objectifies woman?
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GracefulDiscension. wrote...
SLAYER NEXUS wrote...
x-gen wrote...
As far as I'm concerned, if the chick I'm dating/fucking is a virgin, it's just the cherry at the top of the sundae.Well put.
Why do I have the feeling that statement objectifies woman?
Because he said we, females, are like sundaes.
Then again, guys having lots of experience is just an extra banana in my banana split. So, I guess it works both ways.
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LostQuartet wrote...
GracefulDiscension. wrote...
SLAYER NEXUS wrote...
x-gen wrote...
As far as I'm concerned, if the chick I'm dating/fucking is a virgin, it's just the cherry at the top of the sundae.Well put.
Why do I have the feeling that statement objectifies woman?
Because he said we, females, are like sundaes.
Then again, guys having lots of experience is just an extra banana in my banana split. So, I guess it works both ways.
shouldnt it be extra cream or nots not banana on banana -w-
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Eh I don't really think there is such a thing as a Virgin Complexe, I think its just paranoia.
However dating a guy for 2 months and already losing your virginity?
I can only think of two scenerios
1. The two were 100% perfect for eachother (unlikely_
2. He threated her (leaving, telling a secret, ect.) if she didn't have sex with him, and now shes to scared to leave him.
However dating a guy for 2 months and already losing your virginity?
I can only think of two scenerios
1. The two were 100% perfect for eachother (unlikely_
2. He threated her (leaving, telling a secret, ect.) if she didn't have sex with him, and now shes to scared to leave him.
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Evnyofdeath wrote...
Eh I don't really think there is such a thing as a Virgin Complexe, I think its just paranoia.However dating a guy for 2 months and already losing your virginity?
I can only think of two scenerios
1. The two were 100% perfect for eachother (unlikely_
2. He threated her (leaving, telling a secret, ect.) if she didn't have sex with him, and now shes to scared to leave him.
Are those really the only 2 scenarios you could think of?
Here, let me add some more;
3) They don't really care about sex
4) The girl wanted to have sex just as much as the guy did because her fingers just weren't cutting it anymore...
5) She is actually a pervert on her way to conquest 100 men into sex friends...
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Nomad wrote...
Evnyofdeath wrote...
Eh I don't really think there is such a thing as a Virgin Complexe, I think its just paranoia.However dating a guy for 2 months and already losing your virginity?
I can only think of two scenerios
1. The two were 100% perfect for eachother (unlikely_
2. He threated her (leaving, telling a secret, ect.) if she didn't have sex with him, and now shes to scared to leave him.
Are those really the only 2 scenarios you could think of?
Here, let me add some more;
3) They don't really care about sex
4) The girl wanted to have sex just as much as the guy did because her fingers just weren't cutting it anymore...
5) She is actually a pervert on her way to conquest 100 men into sex friends...
True, but I was trying not to insult the person who made the thread by calling her friend a slut
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Nomad wrote...
5) She is actually a pervert on her way to conquest 100 men into sex friends...I like this one.
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Evnyofdeath wrote...
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True, but I was trying not to insult the person who made the thread by calling her friend a slut
A slut? Listen here you chauvinist, at first i thought you were kidding, that's why i dignified my post with your quote.
This is the last post I'm gonna leave here because most of you seem to be completely self diluted so listen closely.
The amount of sex one has had is of absolutely no consequence. It doesn't matter! Not even a little bit!
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Nomad wrote...
Evnyofdeath wrote...
Spoiler:
True, but I was trying not to insult the person who made the thread by calling her friend a slut
A slut? Listen here you chauvinist, at first i thought you were kidding, that's why i dignified my post with your quote.
This is the last post I'm gonna leave here because most of you seem to be completely self diluted so listen closely.
The amount of sex one has had is of absolutely no consequence. It doesn't matter! Not even a little bit!
? Your reply made absolutely no sense to me. If you find you need to yell at me based on my views of the world, then there is something wrong with you.
People individual opinions ARE NOT valid reasons to hate and yell at them.
Also, how is being a chauvinist a bad thing? It basically means that I don't objectify woman, which is a GOOD THING.
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LostQuartet wrote...
Because he said we, females, are like sundaes.
Then again, guys having lots of experience is just an extra banana in my banana split. So, I guess it works both ways.
A banana split sounds like a horrible injury that would occur during sex to the male appendage.
Evnyofdeath wrote...
Also, how is being a chauvinist a bad thing? It basically means that I don't objectify woman, which is a GOOD THING.Uh no it doesn't... It means you hold feelings of superiority of your kind over others - like men over women.
BUT... I don't think you are a chauvinist :D
Ziggy wrote...
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I agree, my only point was I don't think it is wrong for them to say they aren't interested because you've done the deed in the past IF they are playing by their own rules. If they aren't an ass about it, then I wouldn't hold it against them if they felt like they wanted a partner who was a virgin. BUT ONLY IF THEY WERE HOLDING THEMSELVES TO THEIR OWN LOFTY STANDARDS.
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neko-chan wrote...
LostQuartet wrote...
Because he said we, females, are like sundaes.
Then again, guys having lots of experience is just an extra banana in my banana split. So, I guess it works both ways.
A banana split sounds like a horrible injury that would occur during sex to the male appendage.
How can you say such things!? I can't get it out of my head now! Ugh...!
Virgin here too, but I feel like sex can be a method for extracting pleasure, or an intimate form of love. However, I think in any case I would like a virgin more. We would both be new to this kind of thing... but I would be fine without sex. I guess what is more important is that you enjoy being with her, but personally I like it even more if the feelings are mutual.
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Brittany
Director of Production
Evnyofdeath wrote...
Nomad wrote...
Evnyofdeath wrote...
Eh I don't really think there is such a thing as a Virgin Complexe, I think its just paranoia.However dating a guy for 2 months and already losing your virginity?
I can only think of two scenerios
1. The two were 100% perfect for eachother (unlikely_
2. He threated her (leaving, telling a secret, ect.) if she didn't have sex with him, and now shes to scared to leave him.
Are those really the only 2 scenarios you could think of?
Here, let me add some more;
3) They don't really care about sex
4) The girl wanted to have sex just as much as the guy did because her fingers just weren't cutting it anymore...
5) She is actually a pervert on her way to conquest 100 men into sex friends...
True, but I was trying not to insult the person who made the thread by calling her friend a slut
I love double standards.
It's okay for a guy to go out and jump into bed with a girl whenever he wants, because then he's just a man, but if a girl does it, then she's just a slut.
So we're sitting here saying if you have sex within the first two months you're a slut? Well, I guess I'm a slut then :) Fpod and I had sex our first night together, we met when I came down to Georgia for a campus tour of the college I wanted to attend to, and he took me around the city since he lived around there. The University provided me a condo for free since I was coming from out of state, and the night just sort of led that way.
Anybody who is putting a clock to a person on how long they waited until they had sex with a partner, needs to find somebody to screw themselves. Stop being a busy body in other peoples sex lives.
It's all about how comfortable with the person you are, how comfortable you are with your body, and your values on sex. Nobody said sex has to be romantic and full of sweet kisses.