Virgin Complexes?
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So I personally have a huge virgin complex. I have never had a boyfriend or anything before, but I could never date a guy if I found out he wasn't a virgin. It has nothing to do that I'd be threatened by him or anything, It'd just be weird (maybe it also has to do that if I was to date a guy he'd have to be an otaku?). When I think of my friends/people I know losing their virginity (or even making out) I get really panicked too.
Recently one of my really close best friends (I'd known her since grade 1) moved to another high school this year, and I was really worried about her because she has been home schooled for around 3 years. She was super shy, scared of groups, and had no guy friends asides from the guys she played MMOs with. Soon, she more or less stopped talking to me even when I started conversations with her, and suddenly started dating a guy. However, when I found out that she was in a relationship suddenly (and from other friends), I also heard that she'd make out with him in the hallways of the school and that she had lost her virginity to him. This was all in a 2 month period of her going to that school, and it upsets me so much I've had nightmares about it. Nightmares. o__o;;
I've had my complex for a lot longer than before that whole thing, but I think that has had a major impact on it.
Does anyone else here have a virgin complex? How do you think it started? Any other experiences?
I mean, it's so weird because I'm pretty much graduating now and I sound like a little kid. >3>;;
Recently one of my really close best friends (I'd known her since grade 1) moved to another high school this year, and I was really worried about her because she has been home schooled for around 3 years. She was super shy, scared of groups, and had no guy friends asides from the guys she played MMOs with. Soon, she more or less stopped talking to me even when I started conversations with her, and suddenly started dating a guy. However, when I found out that she was in a relationship suddenly (and from other friends), I also heard that she'd make out with him in the hallways of the school and that she had lost her virginity to him. This was all in a 2 month period of her going to that school, and it upsets me so much I've had nightmares about it. Nightmares. o__o;;
I've had my complex for a lot longer than before that whole thing, but I think that has had a major impact on it.
Does anyone else here have a virgin complex? How do you think it started? Any other experiences?
I mean, it's so weird because I'm pretty much graduating now and I sound like a little kid. >3>;;
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hahaa virgin complex.....that is shit...im in collage and am not hiding that im a virgin (tough i had few offers but i declined cause she was married and had children...)
one of most famous people didnt hide that they had sex first time on their 1st wedding night....
so u just wait and who cares if he is not a virgin like it matteres...just be carefull that he has no AIDS...lol
one of most famous people didnt hide that they had sex first time on their 1st wedding night....
so u just wait and who cares if he is not a virgin like it matteres...just be carefull that he has no AIDS...lol
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Oh, I could care less about when I have lose my virginity. I could be 40 and still not care, it just has to be that person. XD For some reason I look down on non-virgins and treat them differently than virgins. I know, it's totally weird and could probably be viewed as backwards thinking. XD
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IEAIAIO wrote...
inb4 someone offers to "cure" you of this by raping you.Space Cowboy wrote...
I'm going to cure this person of their ways. /me rapes long and hard.Yes, I guess that'd be a cure! XD I'm pretty sure it'll never go away until I become one of "them" as well. Zombie Infection! >D
BTW, perfect timing on those two posts. XD
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Oi! Hands off my imouto!
To keep it on topic, I think it's your own values that make you like this. You wouldn't do something unless it was the person you're marrying, you wouldn't want your partner to have done anything either. Perhaps you'll relax a bit about it as you get older, but I don't think you should think it's that weird. There's other people out there with similar views (I'm kind of like that), I'm sure you'll find someone eventually. At least it means you're not going to run off and do stupid things :)
To keep it on topic, I think it's your own values that make you like this. You wouldn't do something unless it was the person you're marrying, you wouldn't want your partner to have done anything either. Perhaps you'll relax a bit about it as you get older, but I don't think you should think it's that weird. There's other people out there with similar views (I'm kind of like that), I'm sure you'll find someone eventually. At least it means you're not going to run off and do stupid things :)
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I actually consider myself a bit of a gardener. For relationships virgins are a plus but not mandatory.
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I actually wouldn't date a girl knowing she's not a virgin. Experienced or not, I could not date a girl who has lost her virginity, unless under special circumstances.
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e-imi wrote...
So I personally have a huge virgin complex. I have never had a boyfriend or anything before, but I could never date a guy if I found out he wasn't a virgin. It has nothing to do that I'd be threatened by him or anything, It'd just be weird (maybe it also has to do that if I was to date a guy he'd have to be an otaku?). When I think of my friends/people I know losing their virginity (or even making out) I get really panicked too.Recently one of my really close best friends (I'd known her since grade 1) moved to another high school this year, and I was really worried about her because she has been home schooled for around 3 years. She was super shy, scared of groups, and had no guy friends asides from the guys she played MMOs with. Soon, she more or less stopped talking to me even when I started conversations with her, and suddenly started dating a guy. However, when I found out that she was in a relationship suddenly (and from other friends), I also heard that she'd make out with him in the hallways of the school and that she had lost her virginity to him. This was all in a 2 month period of her going to that school, and it upsets me so much I've had nightmares about it. Nightmares. o__o;;
I've had my complex for a lot longer than before that whole thing, but I think that has had a major impact on it.
Does anyone else here have a virgin complex? How do you think it started? Any other experiences?
I mean, it's so weird because I'm pretty much graduating now and I sound like a little kid. >3>;;
All I can say is that hopefully it goes away with time or that you find the right guy. And also like Ikaros aka Gugu-chan said above me I prefer virgins not girls who have done it. Just don't want to accidentally get an STD or anything
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I pretend my girlfriends were virgins when i got to them. i don't like to think about the dudes that were there before me.
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Nashrakh
Little White Butterflies Staff
Guess I'm one of the few dudes who would like their partner to have some experience, huh?
I never got the whole virgin hype. In reality, shit is more awkward that way.
I never got the whole virgin hype. In reality, shit is more awkward that way.
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I was thinking more about the ego part. how do i 'messure' up to the ones before me. i agree with nash tho, i don't want an actual virgin.
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Nashrakh wrote...
Guess I'm one of the few dudes who would like their partner to have some experience, huh?I never got the whole virgin hype. In reality, shit is more awkward that way.
Yeah but your guarenteed not to get and STD
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I had a bad childhood, physically beaten my my father & my siblings. So its hard for my to trust. It takes awhile for me to trust & by then things always get ugly.
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Nashrakh
Little White Butterflies Staff
GracefulDiscension. wrote...
Nashrakh wrote...
Guess I'm one of the few dudes who would like their partner to have some experience, huh?I never got the whole virgin hype. In reality, shit is more awkward that way.
Yeah but your guarenteed not to get and STD
lol. Fucking good reason, dude.
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I donlty really have a virgin complex.
but I do think its cute when they are.
just in case you didnt know there is a vigins club here in the chat forums.
but I do think its cute when they are.
just in case you didnt know there is a vigins club here in the chat forums.
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In all seriousness, I don't mind hearing about the sexual exploits. I like to know what pleases my partners. I gave up a very long time ago on potentially finding a virgin who I would keep as a partner for a long time. I'm not too worried about it. It's just something people do. As long as the person I'm with is faithful to me, and everything goes well, all is good.
Don't let it get to you so bad. It's not healthy, and you need to keep an open mind about you and your partner's sexuality. You can't repress that shit, it's not good for the relationship. Also, just get checked for diseases and shit. I'm clean~
Anyways, it sounds like you walked in on your parents or something when you were young, to be bothered by it so much.
Don't let it get to you so bad. It's not healthy, and you need to keep an open mind about you and your partner's sexuality. You can't repress that shit, it's not good for the relationship. Also, just get checked for diseases and shit. I'm clean~
Anyways, it sounds like you walked in on your parents or something when you were young, to be bothered by it so much.