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Pillows are a bit tricky in this hobby, since you only have a few options:

A legit "dakimakura", keeping in mind that the term refers to the pillow itself, and not the cover. This is the recommended option for those getting serious about the hobby, but it isn't a cheap route.

A random body pillow. Cheap, but usually far too small, considering the typical dakimakura cover is 160x50 cm, and the biggest local pillow I've been able to personally find is about 140cm.

Finding a local retailer and/or an online retailer. There is one company, if you're in the US, that produces okay quality pillows at a decent price. They're called Royal Pillow and you can call them up and request a custom size. The pillows are okay for the money, but I wouldn't recommend them overall. Same goes for random stores selling dakimakuras. You're right that the stores are likely bootleg shops, and as the quality of their covers is shit, it's highly likely that the pillows aren't any good either.

If you're willing to spend some money, a Japanese dakimakura is the clear choice for quality. The pillows range from 5k to 10k, however, most stores won't ship internationally so you'll have to use a proxy service, and the pillows can usually only be shipped by EMS due to their size. Overall, after all fees are considered, you're probably looking at between $160 to $200 for the pillow I recommend. It's absolutely worth it though.

If you're interested, I'd be happy to help if you've never used a proxy service. But if you already have a proxy in mind, the pillow is the A&J DHR6000 and it can be found on Amazon.JP.

People keep saying "yeah it's a great thing", but then irl, when it comes to meeting guys, I'm afraid to let my freak flag fly because:
- I'm not someone who sleeps around (in fact, still a damn virgin) as such interests would imply
- don't want to scare them off with confidence in my sexuality.

it sucks.

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Summary: to make a good relationship work you need to personally make the effort to be committed. Having that mindset to commit will make it that much easier to find another person who will do the same.

For starters, I think you need to look for a psychologist (woman is recommended but a guy is fine) and open up telling them about your past. There are times when dealing with this alone or sharing it with another carelessly will only produce bad results. A psychologist will help you confront your past and close the chapter without any medication. It worked for me and my case was making me a time bomb.

Once you are in this process(or you completed it), you can look for a partner and share your past with that person when the time is right for both of you to get closer to one another. You left your past behind but you are not hiding it, you changed for the better and you are going to prove it. Your partner will notice that.